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Feeling overwhelmed when reaching out, does anyone else experience this?

Lonehare12

I wanted to ask about something I noticed recently about myself.

When I tried to PM someone to thank them for their efforts supporting people here, I felt a really awful, physical feeling in my body, almost dread. I think it might be related to RSD or sensitivity around showing vulnerability.

It felt like because of all the unknowns around it, the uncertainty of it all, I nearly talked myself out of it.

Is this because of my AUDHD or are NT people like this too.

I wonder if others experience something similar?

How do you manage it, and does it help to try small steps, like sending a message or accepting compliments?

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  • Lonehare12 said:
    I think it might be related to RSD or sensitivity around showing vulnerability.

    I think this is the most likely answer.

    You are reaching out while vulnerable to someone who you have given a position of power (through offering you support) and you have no idea if they will react or if they do, how they will react.

    Lonehare12 said:
    How do you manage it

    I would just say "thanks" in the discussion thread and maybe upvote their answer if it was meaningful to me, but otherwise wouldn't say much more unless it meant a great deal to me, then it would be a bit of a longer thanks message.

    This site is pretty strict about its privacy stufff so there is no expectation of personalised thanks and the DM system by default requires you to make a friend request, be accepted and only then can you message most of us.

    I think it best to keep most things a bit at arms length for the personal interaction with others unless you are looking for friendship.

  • in reply to Iain

    Thanks, that makes a lot of sense.

    I can see how keeping a bit of distance helps manage vulnerability while still appreciating the support.

    I will keep that in mind moving forward.

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