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Please Do Not Unmask!

Zyphullen

Hi everyone,

I've been living with C-PTSD since I was about four years old—I'm 37 now—and for the first time in my entire life, over the past month, I've started unmasking. I've stopped pretending to be "normal" and embarked on a real journey to discover who I truly am. But here's why I'm warning you: don't do it.

Both my wife and my father are now actively trying to have me committed to a mental hospital—for real. And yet, for the first time as an adult, I don't feel suicidal. I feel clear-headed and more myself than I ever have. The police have shown up at my door twice, and I've been forced into mental health assessments. My father even threatened me outright, but when I told the police, they dismissed it as "not a threat"—he was just "trying to help" by getting me locked away.

Yes, I've changed. I've finally climbed out of the deep, dark hole I've spent my whole life in, and they can't stand to see me happy. I can now take walks outside by myself without crippling fear. I can step into shops I never dared enter before. I feel truly alive for the first time.

My point is this: if you start to heal, if you unmask and dare to be your authentic self, the whole system—family, authorities, everyone—will come for you. They'll punish you for being different, for not fitting their idea of "normal." So please, don't risk it. Stay safe.

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  • I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad experience.

    Zyphullen said:
    Both my wife and my father are now actively trying to have me committed to a mental hospital—for real

    Have you considered asking for a restraining order for them? 

    I don't know if you still live with your wife but with this sort of treatment I would be out the door in a flash.

    I don't think it is necessarily that they want to stomp on your happiness, more like they are concerned by a sudden and extreme change in your behaviour that is often a sign of mental illness, so they are probably scared that you have gone off the rails and are acting very out of character.

    This is down to their lack of understanding so it may be worth asking someone in a position of authority who really understands autism to explain it to them so they take it seriously.

    Since the situation is looking quite extreme I would recommend speaking to a divorce lawyer just so you know what to expect if you need to separate quickly and take the appropriate steps to protect your assets / finances. Listen to the professional before doing anything.

    The next thing I would recommend is getting a good psychotherapist to help you deal with all this - the strain of the situation as well as coming to terms with your autism (you don't say if you have a diagnosis) really need a professional to navigate when things are so stressful.

    All this is just my opinion of course - I trust you will do all your own research.

    Good luck in the days ahead.

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  • I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad experience.

    Zyphullen said:
    Both my wife and my father are now actively trying to have me committed to a mental hospital—for real

    Have you considered asking for a restraining order for them? 

    I don't know if you still live with your wife but with this sort of treatment I would be out the door in a flash.

    I don't think it is necessarily that they want to stomp on your happiness, more like they are concerned by a sudden and extreme change in your behaviour that is often a sign of mental illness, so they are probably scared that you have gone off the rails and are acting very out of character.

    This is down to their lack of understanding so it may be worth asking someone in a position of authority who really understands autism to explain it to them so they take it seriously.

    Since the situation is looking quite extreme I would recommend speaking to a divorce lawyer just so you know what to expect if you need to separate quickly and take the appropriate steps to protect your assets / finances. Listen to the professional before doing anything.

    The next thing I would recommend is getting a good psychotherapist to help you deal with all this - the strain of the situation as well as coming to terms with your autism (you don't say if you have a diagnosis) really need a professional to navigate when things are so stressful.

    All this is just my opinion of course - I trust you will do all your own research.

    Good luck in the days ahead.

Children
  • in reply to Iain

    Thank you for the advice. Unfortunately, I have very little money right now, so I may need to go into credit card debt just to get this sorted out. Once that's done, I'll be filing for a restraining order against my father. And since I'm currently living with my wife, I'll need to find a new place to live as quickly as possible.

    Edit: I just completed the assessment, and they confirmed there's no danger from me to myself or others—my mental clarity is truly clear. It just goes to show who the delusional ones really are: my father and my soon-to-be ex-wife.