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Given up

Welshgirl87

I feel like im drowning, no matter how hard I try to be happy an act fine I can't its not that i dont try cause I do i feel utterly defeated.. I just want out of all this I want all this pain an torture to end.

Im sorry i know I must sound like a fool.

I mean what happens when uve reached ur limit an all u see is darkness is there a way back?

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  • "What's occuring then" sister.

    When I have found myself in dire straits and utter hopelessness in the past (and believe me......I have endured some really long and horrendous periods in my life).....I have ALWAYS found that things ALWAYS change.  Personally, I find that fact quite reassuring - and I hope you can too.

    Sometimes, that change isn't exactly ace!  Moreover, sometimes, it is almost hard to believe just how dreadful it can be.........but at least it is change!

    Sometimes that change comes in the form of things actually getting worse!  I know, right.......not exactly an uplifting thought for you at this moment......but hey - even things getting worst is a change!  And - when this has happened for me - the one thing that I have realised, is that I WASN'T previously at my limit at all.....I just hadn't been in that position before where I was feeling that much pain and hopelessness before.

    Sometimes, the change that I speak of, simply comes in the form of me realising that I am in a "prolonged" stretch of monotonous misery and despair, with a duration and intensity that I have not had to endure before.  Although this is a grim realisation when it happens....at least it is a change ie I realise that have a different type of challenge to endure!! 

    Obviously - what goes up, must come down.  It is a rule of nature and human existence, to my understanding and experience.  Accordingly, I can also reassure that.........YES, YES, YES = When all you see is darkness, there is ALWAYS a way back !

    I'm an old(ish) fella - with plenty of emotional and psychological scars.  Whilst life can be an absolute toilet for long periods of time, I have ALWAYS found that, no matter what, no matter how hard things get, no matter how long they last that way.......eventually.......things ALWAYS change for the better.

    And for my last (hopefully, truly uplifting thought for you).......when you come out the other side of this horrible time in your life (and you will).....you are going to be stronger, wiser and a more "complete" as a human. 

    I wish you better times - and know they will arrive for you - just bear it - it will be worth it.

    Best regards

    Number.

  • in reply to Number

    Made me cry reading that, such alot of right there but it's just getting my own head around it all an believing it can get better, which right now is not the case at all but thank you 

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  • in reply to Welshgirl87

    Tears are good = changes our balance of hormones and "sciencey stuff" like that.

    Platitudes.....for people like us......don't ever help!

    We deal with reality, as we see it, in the moment.

    It's hard - sometimes REALLY REALLY hard.

    I just wanted you to hear this = with all sincerity = things always change.

    If I have survived and come out stronger (multiple times,) I am very sure you can too.

    I'm sending you hopeful and sustaining energy via the ether of humanity.

    I hope you receive it, and it is helpful to you.

    Number - out.