Help with mum

I’ve kinda seen a pattern in my mum’s behaviour that’s concerning my safety at home, especially yesterday, wish someone could intervene?

As an autistic woman with complex PTSD, as well as Cerebral Palsy, that’s had a history of domestic abuse and being abused by the system, especially with social workers, so-called carers and doctors, which mum is forcing me to engage with, when it isn’t in my capacity to cope with.

When I showed her the definition of ABA, and how harmful it is to an autistic person, she started throwing more abuse at me, like she agrees with it, and it’s having knock on effect on my mental health.

I’ve no supportive family, and any friends I’ve got are miles away in either the Glasgow/Lanarkshire area, the public transport system is barely accessible to me, and the staff who work on them have also been abusive, which means I’m in quite a precarious and very isolated situation, which I’ve been waiting for to be moved back to Coatbridge, where most friends reside.

I trust someone might step in and reason with mum, cuz our relationship is on the rocks, because of her lack of understanding, acceptance and respect of my needs.

I can only cope with the people in my circle, and functionality is more limited. My meltdowns and shutdowns are more apparent, cuz I cannot get rest or peace, cuz it seems at every turn, it’s the same abuse, hostility and hatred!

please someone, HELP!

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  • Hi AlexandriaMusic,

    How are things with you now? So sorry to hear about how things are for you. Have you managed to get through the last 6 days okay, or are things about the same, or have things got worse.

    Reach out again, if you need to. 

    x Mrs Snooks

  • Worse than before, ma trust in mum is this close to gone!

    I know she has short term memory loss, but that doesn’t excuse her ableism, it’s like her friends are more than her daughter’s safety. I’m left in a very vulnerable situation with nobody around me for help, and this week alone I’ve been close to 3 or 4 episodes of suicidal thoughts!

    I’ve had it from every family member, almost all her friends, and her hostile attitude is breaking my heart.

  • Dear  , I am sorry you are still going through such a tough time with your mum. Because you mentioned having suicidal thoughts, we post safeguarding information so you and others who might be going through a similar situation can get support if needed. It’s good that you’ve let us know what’s happening and how you’re feeling. Many people have similar thoughts when coping with so much and we hope you’re okay. 

    If you are unable to cope with the distress or despair, it’s very important to tell someone about your feelings or thoughts of suicide. Call your GP and make an urgent appointment. Your GP can make sure you get appropriate help and support. 

    If it’s outside your GP hours call 111 to reach the NHS 111 service: 

    https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/ 

    The Samaritans also provide confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day on 116 123, or by email on jo@samaritans.org. 

    MIND have information pages on coping with self harm or suicidal feelings based on the experiences of people who’ve been through it that you may find helpful.  

    If you are very close to doing something to hurt yourself - call 999 now or go to your nearest A&E department. There should be someone there to support you and make sure you get ongoing support.   

    You can find more information here: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/suicide 

    Best wishes,

    Anna Mod

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  • Dear  , I am sorry you are still going through such a tough time with your mum. Because you mentioned having suicidal thoughts, we post safeguarding information so you and others who might be going through a similar situation can get support if needed. It’s good that you’ve let us know what’s happening and how you’re feeling. Many people have similar thoughts when coping with so much and we hope you’re okay. 

    If you are unable to cope with the distress or despair, it’s very important to tell someone about your feelings or thoughts of suicide. Call your GP and make an urgent appointment. Your GP can make sure you get appropriate help and support. 

    If it’s outside your GP hours call 111 to reach the NHS 111 service: 

    https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/ 

    The Samaritans also provide confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day on 116 123, or by email on jo@samaritans.org. 

    MIND have information pages on coping with self harm or suicidal feelings based on the experiences of people who’ve been through it that you may find helpful.  

    If you are very close to doing something to hurt yourself - call 999 now or go to your nearest A&E department. There should be someone there to support you and make sure you get ongoing support.   

    You can find more information here: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/suicide 

    Best wishes,

    Anna Mod

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