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I failed to protect her

hypercolius

I was walking yesterday when I saw two cyclists, with one of them yelling at the other. 

I have ASD (Level 1) and also appear to have severe ADHD- enough for a fast-tracked referral to be sent. 

The person who was yelling, a frail-looking man, got off his bike and began physically threatening and yelling at the other, a woman. 

She looked terrified and the whole situation looked terrible. 

I was nearby, I could have intervened. The man was about my size, but much older and incredibly frail, so I could have easily stopped him if I wanted to. 

Despite the severity of the situation, I just walked on and didn't intervene. I almost turned around to deal with him when the situation escalated, but I did not have my phone with me to call the police. 

I feel I'm a horrible person for not stepping in to protect her. Saying 'I will next time' makes me feel worse because next time I'm sure I'll chicken out again. 

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  • Thats a really difficult one and I think a situation where you're damned if you do and damned if you don't, I probably would of asked the woman if she was OK and taken it from there. But the problem with intervening with an elderly person is if you have to intervene physically, elderly people can have very frail bones so restraiing them is difficult as you can accidently injure them.

    I supose the other thing is the woman might have been behaving badly for the man to start shouting like that? I've been known to lean out fo my car window and shout 'Do you want to see your next birthday? If so look where you're going' when cyclists have done something stupid or someone face down in thier phone has walked out in front of me without looking.

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  • Thats a really difficult one and I think a situation where you're damned if you do and damned if you don't, I probably would of asked the woman if she was OK and taken it from there. But the problem with intervening with an elderly person is if you have to intervene physically, elderly people can have very frail bones so restraiing them is difficult as you can accidently injure them.

    I supose the other thing is the woman might have been behaving badly for the man to start shouting like that? I've been known to lean out fo my car window and shout 'Do you want to see your next birthday? If so look where you're going' when cyclists have done something stupid or someone face down in thier phone has walked out in front of me without looking.

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