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Those free days

Morris277

I struggle on days when I have no plans, no commitments. All it takes is one dentist appointment or a therapy call to give my day structure. When the whole day is all down to me, I find it hard to land on anything to do.

I think about reaching out, to friends or my parents, for some company. Or maybe I should have a day for myself, doing my hobbies, resting, chores. The decision of action or inaction, company or solitude is such a stressful thing for me.

Every possible thing I think, almost immediately slips away. I have an idea of what to do and then my confidence in that idea is lost. Days like this feel like they’re just wasting away and then all the doubt and fear creeps in.

I wonder if anyone can relate to this feeling or would have any ideas of feeling more comfortable and self assured on days like this?

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  • Morris277 said:
    Every possible thing I think, almost immediately slips away.

    I find it helps to have a routine where there is a start time set for the things I want to do.

    For example an alarm gets me up at the same time every day and I have set days of the week when I go to the gym and on other days if I feel lke it I will go then too - it will depend on how I feel physically.

    Either post gym or post breakfast I will shower and catch up on news / social media / any websites I follow then have an alarm go off at 10am which is the start of my admin slot.

    I'll make sure all bills are up to date, make any orders on my to-do list then once the admin is clear I will look at my list of projects and take the top one and see if I can make progress on it. If not I will assess if I need to order parts, search for advice etc and do that then move onto the next one I can do something with and just get stuck in.

    At the moment I am repairing a bunch of old electrical items from the 1940s/50s/60s so have been stripping down electric fans, stripping paint / polishing them, replacing wiring & switches and any damage before rebuilding them. I also have some old table lamps where I have been rewiring and replacing damaged parts (mostly then need to have bits fabricated which can be fun) and turning them into functioning pieces of stylish decor again.

    In the afternoon I have a 2pm alarm to start my language studies so I can keep these going and then allow myself a free afternoon to do whatever I want.

    The evening is free for either watching TV episodes / films, reading or going out - all depending on what I made plans for in advance.

    It helps that I am retired early and can choose this lifestyle but I there are often periods of 3 months where I renovate apartments for either profit or for an affordable housing charity I support.

    This way I get to set aside time for progress on projects, my education and my health while still managing to have lots of relaxing time doing the things I love (reading and watching my favourite genres on TV).

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  • Morris277 said:
    Every possible thing I think, almost immediately slips away.

    I find it helps to have a routine where there is a start time set for the things I want to do.

    For example an alarm gets me up at the same time every day and I have set days of the week when I go to the gym and on other days if I feel lke it I will go then too - it will depend on how I feel physically.

    Either post gym or post breakfast I will shower and catch up on news / social media / any websites I follow then have an alarm go off at 10am which is the start of my admin slot.

    I'll make sure all bills are up to date, make any orders on my to-do list then once the admin is clear I will look at my list of projects and take the top one and see if I can make progress on it. If not I will assess if I need to order parts, search for advice etc and do that then move onto the next one I can do something with and just get stuck in.

    At the moment I am repairing a bunch of old electrical items from the 1940s/50s/60s so have been stripping down electric fans, stripping paint / polishing them, replacing wiring & switches and any damage before rebuilding them. I also have some old table lamps where I have been rewiring and replacing damaged parts (mostly then need to have bits fabricated which can be fun) and turning them into functioning pieces of stylish decor again.

    In the afternoon I have a 2pm alarm to start my language studies so I can keep these going and then allow myself a free afternoon to do whatever I want.

    The evening is free for either watching TV episodes / films, reading or going out - all depending on what I made plans for in advance.

    It helps that I am retired early and can choose this lifestyle but I there are often periods of 3 months where I renovate apartments for either profit or for an affordable housing charity I support.

    This way I get to set aside time for progress on projects, my education and my health while still managing to have lots of relaxing time doing the things I love (reading and watching my favourite genres on TV).

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