Anyone else feel like it takes too long to think?

I'm a wordy person and tend to be a bit long winded, other people often can't be bothered to listen to the end of what I'm trying to say.

Do you think people are often too impatient to actually listen and listen to the silences in our conversations? The silences tell us as much as the speech. I often find that people are far to keen to finish my sentences for me before I've 3 or 4 words out, the usually get in wrong and then theres confusion and accusations, if they'd just shut up long enough to actually hear what I said none of the confusion would have happened. Yet if I answer yes/no/or don't know this is also wrong.

It sounds like whatever you may be talking about at those times TheCatWoman, you're talking about things which are important to you? Maybe no so important to them - the short answer or more elaborate one are at extremes and it almost sounds like, if no short answer is correct then before you've started you're at odds with the person you're talking to somehow?   You have your view, they have theirs. What does resolution look like? Is it even possible? 

Saza, I don't waffle on about my interests at the expense of others. I often get asked if I'd like to do/have something, only to then be questioned as to why, I've given the wrong answer, or rather not the answer the questioner was wanting. So, would you like a a fabric stick on watefall mural for an old bit of wall to which my answer was no I wouldn't thanks, was the wrong answer, I was supposed to say yes how wonderful. Or 'would you like to go to Thailand on holiday?' 'No thankyou, why not, because I can't do long haul flights, it's to hot and humid for me and I don't like the food. Is this the sort of thing you mean? Obviously anything I suggest as an alternative is also wrong.

I do say, no thank you, but suggesting somewhere else is usualy wrong too, and people wonder why I'm curmudgeonly and misanthropic?

It would work better if you thanked them for the suggestion and offered an alternative. It is ok to decline and offer a counterproposal. That is not ungrateful.

The problem is with the framing of it as a question when it's actually not a question at all but someone trying to tell me what is going to happen. By framing as a request rather than a statement, they can make me the bad guy for saying no. This seems to be quite a common way for men to say things to women, they can appear generous by offering to take us to expensive and glamourous places, all the while knowing that the offer will be kindly rejected, then they can complain that you're ungrateful, never want to do anything or go anywhere, are boring etc. It's a form of bullying and gaslighting.

Perfectly reasonable responses. I'm not sure what the issue is.

Perfectly reasonable responses. I'm not sure what the issue is.

I do say, no thank you, but suggesting somewhere else is usualy wrong too, and people wonder why I'm curmudgeonly and misanthropic?

It would work better if you thanked them for the suggestion and offered an alternative. It is ok to decline and offer a counterproposal. That is not ungrateful.

The problem is with the framing of it as a question when it's actually not a question at all but someone trying to tell me what is going to happen. By framing as a request rather than a statement, they can make me the bad guy for saying no. This seems to be quite a common way for men to say things to women, they can appear generous by offering to take us to expensive and glamourous places, all the while knowing that the offer will be kindly rejected, then they can complain that you're ungrateful, never want to do anything or go anywhere, are boring etc. It's a form of bullying and gaslighting.