So, I am writing this as I am questioning myself as I had a incident where I had a really bad meltdown and I am left wondering whether I was wrong to feel and react the way I did.
Here's what:-
my parents were getting ready to go out for the night but in the rush of trying to get ready my mum forgot to set out the washing to hang up on the radiators to dry. So naturally, she asked me to do it for her. Now I normally don't have an issue with that as I've done it many times in the past whenever my mum hasn't been able to do so herself, just a normal chore no problem. But this time was different as there were a couple factors which made this simple chore slightly more difficult for me
1. My mum seems to have a habit of putting too much of a load on at one time which makes finding space on the racks and radiators very difficult and I am left not knowing what to do in a situation where there is extra clothing with no room for them to dry properly
2. She has a very precise way of doing things like this chore, more specifically how to hang things and she tends to groan if she thinks it's not done properly or more specifically HER way
3. She gave me all that load with little time to problem solve.
You see, one of the things that is my biggest tiggers is either last minute changes to already set out plans or things being sprung on me at the very last minute with very little instructions. But despite my bubbling feeling I tried to just get on with it at first. But it was when I started running out of space I started to slowly get frustrated but I tried to remain calm and quickly ask mum on what to do. Her answer was not very helpful as she just kept telling me to put certain items in a certain place even when I explained to her that I couldn't because again I was running out of space. In the end she just got frustrated with me and started rearranging everything to make sure everything fitted. I understood some part of her frustration as she and my dad were just trying to get out the door so they could make their night out on time but her groaning with giving me bad vibes. And what didn't help and pretty much sent me over the edge was I could hear saying over and over "it's not rocket science".
I doubt she meant it as a put down as I know she would never try and deliberately hurt my feelings but that's how it came across and that just upset me more and made things worse. Before I knew it, I just started raising my voice trying to explain what my issues were but all she did was just shout back and tell me how I was overreacting and I need to stop behaving so erratically. My dad in this situation was surprisingly a bit more calm in that scenario. Even though I knew he was just agreeing with mum, he didn't actually say it and he just told me to calm down and enjoy my favourite show and have my favourite dessert. And with that they then headed out the door.
Now once again I'd like to point out that my parents are not bad, in fact most of the time they are lovely... but it just feels like after all these years, they are clueless on how to help me whenever I have these moments. I mean, my friends know better calming techniques for me than my own family does... and it feels horrible having to say that.
Anyways, I have calmed down, now that I have watched my favourite show in the whole world (Doctor who 
) and my favourite ice cream 
. And my parents have now returned and we are now trying to act like nothing happened. But I am left wondering if I should apologise.
What do you think?
Was I in the wrong? Should I apologise for my outburst?
Has anybody else experienced these stressed and anxious feelings over something seemingly so minor?
Because if I am in wrong here I will apologise and admit my wrongdoing