My partner and sons Dad says he resents me for taking Son to get his vaccines.

It reminds me of all the parents who's children weren't a bit slow learning to read or just not academic, they had to be dyslexic, especially if the parents were academic high achievers.

Nobodies allowed to have an accident any more, there has to be blame and where theres blame theres a claim, or so we're told.

I think theres to many people around who have such a massive sense of entitlement and that "things like this don't or shouldn't happen to people like us". Stupid, arrogant bottom holes!

These days many people like to blame an external animus for misfortune. Nothing can either be just a random occurrence or have a complex origin. They think that there has to be a simple explanation for everything and if they are offered it, they cling to it, despite all evidence to the contrary.

They think that they know better than the medical experts who examined Wakefield's work in minute detail and found that it was so fraudulent that they took away his licence to practise medicine. Against such wilful ignorance there is little that can be done.

(I am reflecting here upon my knowledge of a similar situation which arose within my wider family, rather than offering medical guidance).

If you were one of my relatives, I would have appreciated that you would have taken into account current NHS guidance, made considered healthcare choices, plus your decision-making would have been designed to also act in support of your Son and considered his personal communication needs when dealing with potential medical treatment.

If there were to have been a chance, e.g. without timely vaccination, that your Son could have contracted a circulating childhood / community illness and then needed to experience an Hospital stay (when that could have been avoided) - that would have seemed unkind.

In my wider family, there was one parent who got insistent about private rather than NHS vaccinations for their child.  The child started to receive private vaccinations - but not quite to the same typical schedule as would have been NHS customary - as, via privately, that parent had also insisted upon single type vaccines being used (but that was not warranted - based upon the child's medical circumstances).

In the meantime, the child became seriously ill (nothing to do with vaccines at all) and needed significant surgery - which was put in jeopardy when the treatment team became concerned as they realised that the customary total schedule of vaccinations had yet to be completed - as might have been reasonably expected or assumed (given the child's age under a NHS schedule). 

An extremely stressful period of additional arrangements ensued.

Eventually, (cutting a complex, critical, story short), the child did undergo their surgery and successfully recovered well.

However, along the way, the stress toll on the child's other parent (who would have ideally opted for the child to be NHS vaccinated as usual in our wider family - that parent didn't want the private approach) ...was clearly considerable. 

It was a very difficult situation for everyone in the wider family to navigate and to feel they adequately supported the child's stressed parent (a source of sadness to their relatives - as it seemed to us all: that both the child and their stressed parent had needlessly suffered the outcome of the (incomplete) private vaccination approach insisted upon by the child's other parent).

The child healthcare decisions to be taken in any household may give rise to tensions and difference of opinion - however, hopefully, the particular support needs of the child in question would ideally be considered paramount.

I've read recently it's higher than 80.

But curious!! If you have links to papers disproving Wakefield. Cannot believe this is still an issue. Gossip is a powerful deluge.

Try relationship counselling and if he is still critical then chuck him out, you don't need that sort of aggravation in your life.

I don’t understand why your husband chooses to believe these myths, but if he is continuing to judge your parenting skills, perhaps it would be worth getting professional help such as counselling, relationship therapy or something like that. It is important for your health that you take action to stop him bullying you.

I am a retired biomedical researcher, I actually knew and worked in the same department as one of the former PhD students of Andrew Wakefield. It is Wakefield who fraudulently came up with the disproven autism vaccine link. At the time the original Lancet paper was in preparation, my former colleague refused to allow his name to appear on the paper, as he was so unhappy with its content. I, therefore, have had 'straight from the horse's mouth' confirmation of the fraudulent nature of Wakefield's hypothesis. Wakefield, in essence, distorted his results and conclusions for monetary gain. The paper was later retracted by Lancet, Wakefield was formally investigated (my friend gave evidence during this) and his licence to practice as a medical doctor was revoked by the General Medical Council.

There is absolutely no causal connection between childhood vaccination and autism. It is merely that signs of autism in young children are noticed at around the same time as they are normally being vaccinated. Around 80% of autism is genetic in origin.

Unfortunately I don't have much time for people who believe unsubstantiated tales.  

The problem - even now - is that there are sites & ways of asking on this question on the internet - and you'll be directed to someone who will / has spread that theory, often by means of shouting out facts that don't hold up to scrutiny when analysed closely.

To suggest that someone would have had a better chance of getting an 'Autism free vaccine' as your partner implies by going private and not using the NHS is laughable.  Or would be if it wasn't so serious - and dangerous to make statements like that. 

If you have a child, especially with the needs you outline - they should come first.  Crackpot, lunatic, blame-game theories help nobody.  I am sorry this wretched person is making you feel like that, and my advice is to put distance between you & the OP.  

If you are EVER in any doubt as to matters relating to Autism or vaccines, please consult a health professional.