I recently lost my aunt. She was an exceedingly valuable person in my life. She made it clear she no longer cared about me.
- She cared a lot over the years. I have very nice memories of her from 2012, 2015 and 2016
- In 2018, she stopped my paternal grandfather from assaulting me, because he didn't like the way I was playing with her son
- In 2019, she visited me many times and we would go to look for mushrooms in the forest (this was Russia)
- When I visited her in her UK city, for the first few times, she was extremely friendly and caring. Tried to help me with my heartbreak. Wrote me every day afterwards
- There were still hurteful moments. On August 26, 2019, this paternal grandfather was trying to take me away from her. Loudly. She didn't care. When I asked her, her response was so indifferent even he looked at me and said 'I'm sorry'.
- I discussed talking about that hurt me with him and his sister with my aunt. The next time I tried, she rather painfully told me that she already talked to me about that
- Just before Covid, when I visited her, she got extremely angry with me when I got scared. She told me if I didn't stop asking that ('Have I done anything wrong?'), she'd ignore it
- She seemed very caring over summer 2020
- When my paternal grandfather died, I asked to call her. She said she would next day. She called me then, said she had friends over, and asked if she could call the next day. So, friends were more important than what I was feeling.
- She didn't see me until September 2021. She practically did not speak to me. Didn't care.
- When I asked if we could just go for a walk in the forest without me visiting that place where my paternal grandfather once lived, which was where someone lived who she was visiting, she angrily said no.
- End of October 2021, she was just absent. The first day, she was running around looking for a blender to make someone a cake. A girl my age who had just gotten into university. It wasn't her birthday. When I asked about it, she harshly told me that she'd 'NEVER help me find a girlfriend'.
- The next day, she ran off again and didn't come back until midnight. She knew how much I wanted to be with her.
- The next day after, she and her daughter got into an argument because the daughter didn't want to go to an opera she scheduled for the same weekend as inviting me over. I said I could go. She angrily said no, that my mother wanted me to see the university (she forgot that mum specifically asked her to show it to me given she taught there, but she said her husband would do it, who no longer worked there), and if I had a problem, I should discuss it with her.
- When her son broke a jar of Cypriot jam, she hit him so hard he yelped and ran out of the kitchen
- Then, she walks up to me and tells me she wanted to go- alone- to a neighbour. Again without me. I got really upset. At first, she told me she took nobody there and that she had an 'agreement' with him. Then she got me opera tickets.
- The next day was halloween and Sunday. She drove me to the station. After that, she ran off to meet that girl my age and her parents. That girl would have studied in the same city as me.
- I told my mother when I got back. She was absolutely furious.
- We barely spoke afterwards. A year later, I asked if I could visit. She said something like 'the children have different priorities now'.
- In 2023, she said she wanted to see me before she flew off to Geneva. She was a lot nicer this time, but after that practically never replied to me when I wrote her.
- In 2024, a year later, I was bullied out of a society. I wrote her a pleading message, and she responded a week later and didn't even acknowledge what I've written.
- When I told her I presented in Parliament, she ignored it outright.
This is all extremely upsetting to me. She was a very valuable person in my life.