Feeling cut off

TheCatWoman said:

Why dose everything have to be seasoned with with video's and stuff?

I think that this is because social media is the zeiteist and pervades almost everyones lives now.

As a society we seem to be developing a very short attention span and use videos as our dopamine hits to give constant stimulation and as a result don't find things like reading or talking stimulating enough to be worth the time required.

Availability of other people to talk with is also a challenge as we can't just assume the other person is available when we want to talk - they are proably busy making a TikTok video and don't want to be interrupted. Social media on the other hand is always available and ready for our pleasure.

You can continue with your refusal to engage in things like smart phones and social media but you will find yourself in an ever diminishing group of people.

It's not just that I don't want to use social media, but I don't know how to use, I don't know how to keep myself safe, I can't even use the phone properly as a phone! I did have a smart phone and I stuck with it for about 6 weeks trying daily to do something different with it. I learnt how to store contacts and how to bring them up and phone them, but I found text messaging totally confusing and I didn't know how to turn the predictive text off so I ended up with sentences that made no sense. I never worked out how to answer a call because the screen was just black. The screen would go black a lot and so quickly I ever found the icon that would allow me to even look at how to change it.

It also dosen't help that I have memory problems in certain areas, some sorts of information seems to bypass short term memory and go straight to long term memory without having any synaptic links, so whilst I know that I have done something like C&P before, I don't know how I did it and it never gets better, everytime I do it its like the first time.

To be honest Iain people like yourself don't really help, your obvious frustrantion and annoyance with me make me less willing to engage with tech, because it makes me more afraid of getting wrong and having people being cross and shouting at me for being stupid or ending up causing something weird to happen creates a viscious circle where I am the perpetual villain through not understanding what someone is trying to teach me. What's worse is that I understand why the person is so frustrated, because I'd be frustrated too, I'm frustrated by my inability to cope with it too. You don't seem to accept that I have the diagnosed memory problems either which is really frustrating, probably for both of us as I really can't help it.

Hi Cat woman, don't worry about not being able to use social media or smart phones - you are not alone and it really isn't necessary to be honest. I think that social media is best left alone - it seems to cause more heartache than pleasure from what I've seen. 

My husband can't operate a smart phone, so I bought him one of those flip phones with the large buttons on. I have a smart phone, but use it mainly just as a phone - i prefer to use my tablet or laptop to read & send emails, search for information, do online shopping and post on here.

YouTube can be useful to find out how to do stuff and we also use it to see what games are like before we buy them. Our tv remote has a button with "Youtube" on it that you can press to go straight to it, then you use the buttons to search for what you want to look at.

I'm sorry to hear about your memory problems (although I don't know what C&P is?) Would it be useful for you to write some notes when you learn something, so that you can refer back to them later? 

Hi Cat woman, don't worry about not being able to use social media or smart phones - you are not alone and it really isn't necessary to be honest. I think that social media is best left alone - it seems to cause more heartache than pleasure from what I've seen. 

My husband can't operate a smart phone, so I bought him one of those flip phones with the large buttons on. I have a smart phone, but use it mainly just as a phone - i prefer to use my tablet or laptop to read & send emails, search for information, do online shopping and post on here.

YouTube can be useful to find out how to do stuff and we also use it to see what games are like before we buy them. Our tv remote has a button with "Youtube" on it that you can press to go straight to it, then you use the buttons to search for what you want to look at.

I'm sorry to hear about your memory problems (although I don't know what C&P is?) Would it be useful for you to write some notes when you learn something, so that you can refer back to them later?