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Doom Thinking/Fantasising

Galaxy42

Hi folks.

I wanted to ask if this is a trait of Autism, just a me thing, or something that everybody does.

I spend a lot of my time imagining the worst things possible & how I would react/behave in those circumstances and I do mean the more dreadful things imageable including to my wife/children. I tell myself that I am preparing myself for if a terrible thing were to happen, but at the time they feel more like fantasising and I feel like I have zero control over these thoughts invading my mind.

I love my family, I want them to be safe & would dearly love to block these thoughts.

Does anyone else suffer with similar dreadful thought and do you have any techniques for stopping them?

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  • I think a lot of people do this and its not confined to autists, I think everyone, when a loved one is 10 minutes late, have them invovled in a terrible accident, dead and burried, only for the person to walk through the door and be met by relief and anger.

    I think we do it to prepare for disaster emotionally and maybe physically too, I remember when I was younger people having a stash of tinned and dried foods in case of nuclear war, it was encouraged to be prepared.

    I think the best way of halting these thoughts is to remind yourself that these are just thoughts and have no substance or reality and that you don't actually live in the place where these things have happened, you live here and now where the peope you care about are well and happy and going about their lives. As much as its arrogance to believe the worst will never happen to you and yours, it's also arrogance to believe it will.

    I think this sort of disaster planing is common in people who've got PTSD, have had disrupted or chaotic lives especially in childhood, nothing feels safe or permanent and to believe it is to provoke the worst. I think we're all brought up with the idea of pride before a fall and it keeps many of us in mental chains unable to accept normality and that good things happen and happen to us and that it's OK and that we can believe it.

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  • I think a lot of people do this and its not confined to autists, I think everyone, when a loved one is 10 minutes late, have them invovled in a terrible accident, dead and burried, only for the person to walk through the door and be met by relief and anger.

    I think we do it to prepare for disaster emotionally and maybe physically too, I remember when I was younger people having a stash of tinned and dried foods in case of nuclear war, it was encouraged to be prepared.

    I think the best way of halting these thoughts is to remind yourself that these are just thoughts and have no substance or reality and that you don't actually live in the place where these things have happened, you live here and now where the peope you care about are well and happy and going about their lives. As much as its arrogance to believe the worst will never happen to you and yours, it's also arrogance to believe it will.

    I think this sort of disaster planing is common in people who've got PTSD, have had disrupted or chaotic lives especially in childhood, nothing feels safe or permanent and to believe it is to provoke the worst. I think we're all brought up with the idea of pride before a fall and it keeps many of us in mental chains unable to accept normality and that good things happen and happen to us and that it's OK and that we can believe it.

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