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How can I stop a burnout?

Seren

Over the last few months my meltdowns and shutdowns have become more frequent. I'm barely working, I'm exhausted all the time. I feel so alone, useless and a burden and I don't want to go through this anymore. I don't know where to go to get help. I used to be able to do so much, why can't I be who I used to be? What happened, what went wrong?

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  • Hello Seren,

    As a fellow "Burnout-ee", I find some days can be a bit more manageable than others. 

    I had some essential things (away from home) which I had to get done this morning (so this afternoon for me has been a bit of a blank - as I slowly try to recharge from this morning's errands).

    It has been a few weeks since your original post.  I hope you won't mind me enquiring; I wondered how you might be finding things this week?

  • in reply to DormouseAtRest_25

    Hi, thank you. I have good days and bad days. I'm trying to organise my week so I have more time to get back on my feet after work. I have also tried to find counselling help but finding support is difficult. I don't think I always do the best at resting as I can't shake the feeling of guilt when I do. 

    I don't really know how I'm doing really 

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  • in reply to DormouseAtRest_25

    Hi, thank you. I have good days and bad days. I'm trying to organise my week so I have more time to get back on my feet after work. I have also tried to find counselling help but finding support is difficult. I don't think I always do the best at resting as I can't shake the feeling of guilt when I do. 

    I don't really know how I'm doing really 

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  • in reply to Seren
    Seren said:
    I don't really know how I'm doing really 

    I suspect that if there were to be a winning lapel "burnout awareness" badge ...that phrase might win the top ranking as the ideal campaign candidate.

    The business of do-then-rest (but all the while: switch off the guilt / feel lazy circuit) if a fine art.  I don't think I have mastered it yet, but I am an active practitioner in the making.

    I think if you are able to re-shape your week to some extent - that sounds promising.  My simplistic "peak and trough" version is: a busy day needs (if practical) to be followed by a quieter day.

    I hear you (loud and clear) about the challenge of accessing counselling.  (There seems to something of a post code lottery with that regard).  Recently, I was totally amazed (didn't see it coming) when our regional adult mental health team community hub declined to speak with me on the basis of "no need" (perhaps more accurately: "that doesn't fit our niche"?).  What really stunned me was that they thought that constituted reasonable communication.  It wouldn't be judged acceptable in my working World.  Undeterred, thinking "latelings are us, get used to us" ...I battle forwards, one foot in front of the other.

    When the nagging starts from the conscience about "cease the laziness" etc., I try hard to modify the self-voice tone; to apply the correction along the lines of: "this is what I am supposed to be doing right now, for now ...not a lot of the usual things".

    From some of the other posts / threads on this forum; I believe we ought to take the encouragement from those further along the recovery path - that people can and do surface from burnout - but that the time line can be both frustrating and unique to a given individual and their circumstances.

    Take care.