My son can’t accept his girlfriend breaking up with him. He’s obsessed with contacting her.

Hello. I’m in desperate need of advice for our 18yr old son who has a diagnosis of autistic spectrum disorder. He had a girlfriend of a few months and they met up a couple of times outside of their SEN college. She then said she didn’t want to be his girlfriend anymore. unfortunately, my son can’t accept that and has become very obsessed with her. He keeps texting her phoning her trying to contact her through social media. This is beginning to scare her, apparently. School have contacted the police to come in to speak to my son and try and encourage him to stop But unfortunately he can’t see a problem and he can’t understand how severe the problem has got. The police have suggested we need to remove the photos of the girl from my son‘s phone and we’ve had to sadly stop him going on the Internet to stop him contacting her. This made my son very angry and he lashed out at his dad. Later that evening my son rang 999 and asked them to come and kill his dad. The police understandably were very concerned and came round to the house to check on everything. I’m desperately looking for some help. I’m not sure if it’s a mental health issue but what I do know is my son needs specialist help to try and understand his emotions. He is very vulnerable at the moment and I’m very worried he can’t stop himself getting into trouble. We’ve never had an issue like this before Any help will be appreciated or any advice whatsoever please!

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  • Good morning Mumof2,

    Thank you for your post. I am very sorry to read about the issues you and your son are experiencing. It sounds like you are doing everything you can by seeking help and support for your son. 

    Just in case there is anything more we can do to help I have attached the link to our mental health advice pages. There may be something there to help you and your son. Please feel free to explore the pages, the link is here:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health

    There are many headings. The "seeking help with mental health" may be useful to start with.

    I wish you the best, 

    Anna Mod

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  • Good morning Mumof2,

    Thank you for your post. I am very sorry to read about the issues you and your son are experiencing. It sounds like you are doing everything you can by seeking help and support for your son. 

    Just in case there is anything more we can do to help I have attached the link to our mental health advice pages. There may be something there to help you and your son. Please feel free to explore the pages, the link is here:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health

    There are many headings. The "seeking help with mental health" may be useful to start with.

    I wish you the best, 

    Anna Mod

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