In my rough decade of involvement in autism based forums I've come across very little re 'nervous anticipation'. Mine,this will sound silly but is true, can involve waiting for the pop up sound from the toaster.
In my rough decade of involvement in autism based forums I've come across very little re 'nervous anticipation'. Mine,this will sound silly but is true, can involve waiting for the pop up sound from the toaster.
I think I learnt to get anxious before going on public transport from my Dad who's always get in a flap, I remember having to get the bus before the one that would get us to the train station in time, in case it broke down, we'd always be hanging around on the platform for an hour before our train was due.
I wait for my Air Fryer to finish.
Nervous anticipation is part-and-parcel of my life.
Anxiety kicks in roughly two hours before an event I wish to attend; or even waiting for public transport. My powerlessness over the lives of others can stem from waiting up to an hour for an event; which happens two hours after the allotted time.
Sorry - My comment not intended to be about you making a typo :-) more intended as a joke about me wondering what I did!
Sorry, for the typo, I think I need to cut my finger nails so as they're all the same length as the longer ones skitter over and off the keys and some get pressed twice and others not at all.
That's a good pastime. They typo for a minute had me wondering how you could work out how they fire a rifle :-)
I distract myself in supermarket queues by looking at what the person in fron to fme is buying and trying to guess at thie rlife style and how many people they have in the house.
My wife and I stood in a queue for the supermarket checkout yesterday. I looked at the people in the other queues and looked for clues as to how agitated they were. I concluded that the closer to the front of the queue the more agitated they got. (could be because they were in the self-service bit - you know the one which says "please scan another item" a fraction of a second before you're just about to do exactly that... The sad but telling thing is that when I got closer to the front the same thing happened to me! (I got confused thinking that it was my turn - I'd got sidetracked talking about people getting more agitated!!!) Anyway - the body and mind kind-off run a bit out of synch in terms of awareness it seems on such things. As others have suggested it may be that autistic people have their attenuation to alarms and beeps etc "turned up" in comparison to neurotypical people? I wonder sometimes if it's just that autistic people are just so much more aware - that's what's linked to all the anxiety, need for preparation, planning etc. Hope that you enjoyed the toast :-)
I’m actually struggling quite a lot when dealing with anticipation, especially over a longer period of time. For instance, if I have an appointment that is not part of my routine, I’m often unable to concentrate or do anything productive for the whole day leading up to it.
My opinion is that it is part for me of being jumpy at sudden noises, but made worse if you know it is coming.
The thing I particularly find hard is waiting for a phone call at a particular time. I sit there for about 5 minutes before, rehearsing which button to hit so I don't cut it off. I now chose to make calls myself rather than use callback methods as that is more predictable. If the call is about being off work due to stress it has reached a higher level by the time they call.
I wish I could get rid of all the beeps and jingles too, even our washing machines sings a little song to tell us it's finished. However there are some I find quite comforting, like the BBC2 noise just before Newsnight comes on. There are some that are quite funny, like the fridge mooing at us and occaisionally baa-ing.
Going maybe/probably very left field I wonder whether,in my case, it's a hyper-vigilance issue.
It could well be this.
From what you have written in other posts here this could well be related to your traumas (a PTSD type response) that makes you constantly anticipating "threats" - even if that threat is the sudden movement of the toaster.
It is treatable if you want to take some action about it.
I'm not sure whether,via your description, it's the same . I do know however that waiting for those beeps affects me in the same way as the pop up sound from the toaster. Going maybe/probably very left field I wonder whether,in my case, it's a hyper-vigilance issue.
It could be the same thing and I do that too. But, it might depend on how tense or anxious you get. I get quite tense as the microwave approaches the beep sound and would turn it off, but the ITV X boom feels as if it is going through me. It is agonising. From what I have read about ASD, it wouldn’t be possible to measure how much more or less somebody is affected by something like that. I would love to get rid of all the beeps and lights from kitchen appliances, TVs & so on.
I know this is a bit different
I'd regard it as quite similar.
This feeling is very familiar to me. Though I can't think of an example off the top of my head, I know what you mean,
I know this is a bit different, but I can still get a fright when my wife walks into the room.
