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Newly diagnosed and struggling

maehart

To start I don't usually post online anywhere but I am really struggling, in need of advice or just some reassurance I don't know. I am 24, F, diagnosed two months ago. I have struggled with my mental health forever (anxiety, depression etc) but my life is getting smaller and smaller and I am so scared I'm not going to get out of this. I have so much anxiety  all the time, I barely leave my room let alone my house. I feel nauseous and can't eat properly. I work 2days a week that sometimes i cannot mange without getting overwhelmed and leaving work early, I am in the process for applying to PIP but am very worried about what my future looks like with the current direction its going. I see friends maybe once  a month, the rest of the time I don't even really message anyone I can go days without talking to anyone. I am incredibly lonely and just feel myself regressing so much. I used to have a pretty full life, work full time spend my weekends with friends, go on holiday. I am so scared of people and feel I am constantly in trouble, having to explain justify and apologise for my actions (or lack thereof) to everyone in my life. I just feel so uncomfortable all the time.

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  • maehart said:
    I used to have a pretty full life, work full time spend my weekends with friends, go on holiday.

    What has changed in your life around the time things started going downhill? You don't need to share them but reflecting on them may reveal a trauma of some kind (often an accumulation of them) that has triggered you into your current state.

    From my amateur and non qualified viewpoint it sounds like anxiety is a the core symptom that is leading to many of the other behaviours, symptoms and experiences.

    Have you considered speaking with your GP about this? They may be able to get you an urgent referral to see if there is anything that can help in the short and mid term for you.

    I would expect a therapist would be the most effective way to deal with many of the things you are dealing with but they are not cheap - at least £50/hour for most I have seen and I would expect dozens of sessions are what are needed to get you back to a resemblance of your old life, if you find the emotional / energy cost if something you are willing to accept.

    It isn't easy but you have taken the first step of sharing and asking for advice so please keep that momentum going for as long as you can and you may be surprised at the benefits that a few calls can bring.

    For now please keep active here, sharing and interacting with us as it is a great way to feel connected when you are in such a dark place. There are a lot of helpful and knowledgable people here who can share advice or experiences and help you feel less alone without the overhead of actually meeting with someone.

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  • maehart said:
    I used to have a pretty full life, work full time spend my weekends with friends, go on holiday.

    What has changed in your life around the time things started going downhill? You don't need to share them but reflecting on them may reveal a trauma of some kind (often an accumulation of them) that has triggered you into your current state.

    From my amateur and non qualified viewpoint it sounds like anxiety is a the core symptom that is leading to many of the other behaviours, symptoms and experiences.

    Have you considered speaking with your GP about this? They may be able to get you an urgent referral to see if there is anything that can help in the short and mid term for you.

    I would expect a therapist would be the most effective way to deal with many of the things you are dealing with but they are not cheap - at least £50/hour for most I have seen and I would expect dozens of sessions are what are needed to get you back to a resemblance of your old life, if you find the emotional / energy cost if something you are willing to accept.

    It isn't easy but you have taken the first step of sharing and asking for advice so please keep that momentum going for as long as you can and you may be surprised at the benefits that a few calls can bring.

    For now please keep active here, sharing and interacting with us as it is a great way to feel connected when you are in such a dark place. There are a lot of helpful and knowledgable people here who can share advice or experiences and help you feel less alone without the overhead of actually meeting with someone.

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  • in reply to Iain

    Thank you for taking time to reply. I do have a therapist, I have come on here at his suggestion. I am trying to move past the shame I have for being here and needing so much help. I have tried so hard to fit in and be 'normal' my whole life i am struggling to come to terms with being autistic and needing accommodations and support.