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I want to unmask

Ellie

There's so much I want to say about this but I'm working out how to word it out on here. So, I'm just going to keep it brief and blunt. 

I have been masking my autism for many years and I want to unmask. But I don't know how. 

Please help.

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  • I have this problem where it feels like people looking in all the time, as though I am made of glass. Although I can tolerate this for significant lenghs of time, it is very exausting if it is for a 9-5 35hr a week job.

    Unless I am quite strict about this I don't feel totally confident in certain situations, which can lead people to think I am uptight and that this is my entire personality. Really it is the defence mechanism you put up which people notice mostly. Some people see when my guard is up, my family and loved ones however I am able to drop this very quickly. Mixed situations can be difficult.  People expect you to be the real you and consistent with them.

    Its about estabilishing your own secure barriers. I have noticed there are particular people who attempt to force their way through, subconsciously (as it is only me who sees/feels this) I call them smilers because it scares me. If you have seen the horror movie Smile - those staring eyes and smirk. Those are the people who do not respect your barriers and you should proabbly leave their company. 

    You need to find or make the right environment for yourself to unmask.

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  • I have this problem where it feels like people looking in all the time, as though I am made of glass. Although I can tolerate this for significant lenghs of time, it is very exausting if it is for a 9-5 35hr a week job.

    Unless I am quite strict about this I don't feel totally confident in certain situations, which can lead people to think I am uptight and that this is my entire personality. Really it is the defence mechanism you put up which people notice mostly. Some people see when my guard is up, my family and loved ones however I am able to drop this very quickly. Mixed situations can be difficult.  People expect you to be the real you and consistent with them.

    Its about estabilishing your own secure barriers. I have noticed there are particular people who attempt to force their way through, subconsciously (as it is only me who sees/feels this) I call them smilers because it scares me. If you have seen the horror movie Smile - those staring eyes and smirk. Those are the people who do not respect your barriers and you should proabbly leave their company. 

    You need to find or make the right environment for yourself to unmask.

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