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Auggters Mental health

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My daughter has Autism, she is severely struggling with her.mental health. Her and her dad don't get on, he just doesn't understand her difficulties. He gets drunk every night and is either happy with her or he can be nasty with her. 

She struggles with her mood and when she's down he doesn't get it, he just think she's being awkward and difficult. But she is hard work when lile this and needs total quietness in the house which is difficult as you can imagine we can't be in the kitchen making tea or doing normal day to day things. 

I'm inbetween them both I understand how she's feeling but then also understand why he gets frustrated with her. He doesn't help the situation by being off with her as this makes her worse.

I just don't know what to do or where to turn? 

  • Sounds like he needs help to manage his drinking.

    Does he have other stresses in his life, or is unhappy because of work? 

    An alcoholic father can be really difficult to cope with for neurotypical children too, because of possible unrealistic standards, their moods, and the hurtful things they say when they've had a few too many. 

  • Would his drinking be a problem if your daughter was NT? It sounds very much like he niether accepts or understands autism, maybe he even feels guilty that she is autistic.

    But if he can't or won't accept it, then you need to ask yourself some difficult questions, like who is the adult in this relationship?

    Could you put up some simple sound proofing in her room?