Taking pride in achievements

If you have nobody who supports you in your endevours large or small and you grow in a praise free zone and are never encouraged or asked what you want to do only told what to do and all you burgeoning dreams are strangeld at birth how do you feel a sense of achievement, have a ambition or a sense of pride in yourself?

I'm ambitionless, I don't think I've ever had one and don't really seem to have a sense of achievement or pride. Quite the opposite, I've always felt anything I can do must be easy and simple and not worth mentioning, or its to be hidden like a guilty secret in case somebody tries to take it away.

Does any of this sound familiar to anyone?

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  • I've really struggled with this. I was told by a psychologist that I should not discount everything I have achieved in spite of my challenges.

    It seems that every day life is so mundane and those little victories get lost along the way.

    I have pushed myself beyond my comfortable limit for the good of others but I can't see it as a victory.

    It seems that everything I have gained, a wife, home, job all have come by chance.

    I'm in my 50s and I'm still none the wiser what I want or even who I am.

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  • I've really struggled with this. I was told by a psychologist that I should not discount everything I have achieved in spite of my challenges.

    It seems that every day life is so mundane and those little victories get lost along the way.

    I have pushed myself beyond my comfortable limit for the good of others but I can't see it as a victory.

    It seems that everything I have gained, a wife, home, job all have come by chance.

    I'm in my 50s and I'm still none the wiser what I want or even who I am.

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