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How do you stim / self soothe?

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I’m very stressed, constantly, harmfully. I’m 56 and stopped stimming as a child because I was told not to by my mother. I only remember rocking and eating toothpaste off a tissue. I feel I would benefit from letting myself stim but can’t think of the ways I used to do it. Can people please tell me how they self soothe so I can try different things? Thanks Steph 

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  • Hi, I feel so sorry that you were stopped from stimming. It’s essential for us. I was also told to stop doing it, but I didn’t listen or I just couldn’t stop it. As a kid I had meltdowns anyway, so I can’t imagine how bad would that be if I have stopped stimming. So what I do- I pick my skin, fidget or twirl my fingers, fidget something in my fingers (spin a little plastic box), I also rock and my special thing that let myself do only when I’m alone - pace the room. It relaxes me a lot. 1-2 hour of pacing session recharges me for whole day and helps me regulate my emotions. Although those from my family who saw me doing it laughed and found it really weird, I never stopped. I need it and that’s it! I never knew why I need it so much until I accidentally realised I’m an aspie. 

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  • Hi, I feel so sorry that you were stopped from stimming. It’s essential for us. I was also told to stop doing it, but I didn’t listen or I just couldn’t stop it. As a kid I had meltdowns anyway, so I can’t imagine how bad would that be if I have stopped stimming. So what I do- I pick my skin, fidget or twirl my fingers, fidget something in my fingers (spin a little plastic box), I also rock and my special thing that let myself do only when I’m alone - pace the room. It relaxes me a lot. 1-2 hour of pacing session recharges me for whole day and helps me regulate my emotions. Although those from my family who saw me doing it laughed and found it really weird, I never stopped. I need it and that’s it! I never knew why I need it so much until I accidentally realised I’m an aspie. 

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