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How do I help my 25 yr old son who doesn’t want to be labelled ?

NAS92061
7 months ago

My son left uni with a masters in physics but can’t get a job. His dad died during his time there so I am the only parent and he lives at home with me and his 22 yr old brother. He stays in his room all day with the curtains shut .  He accepts he is different but doesn’t not want to be diagnosed , he refuses to accept interventions to help his mental health. He went to see a therapist who specialises in working with clients with autism. He refused to go back despite her identifying areas to help him. He gets so angry so quickly, my youngest son wanted to move out because he can’t live with the fear of his anger! If I approach him about anything he gets upset and angry . I want to help him , not alienate him. It’s been over 6 months since I have tried to get him to help himself and now I need to try again but don’t know what to do? What area to discuss first ? 

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  • 7 months ago

    So has you son got any skills in IT?  If he has, maybe he should give this a go.  Maybe not as a way into a job, but as something to amuse himself and do while he trues to find work.

    https://cybermillion.immersivelabs.online/signin

    It was previously the Neurodivergent Cyber Academy, a project sponsored by the Government (I believe) and partially run through NAS, at least that's how I got into it.  I actually applied before my diagnosis and was accepted.

    So it's something to do.  All you need to be able to do is some research, answer some questions, do labs.  You can do it as something interesting, or you could do it to get a job in the IT Security business.  The companies that offer work tend to recruit specifically from the ND end of the pool and from a couple of people I know that work for those companies, they understand the problems ASD and ADHD people have and plus psychologists and other medical staff to help them while at work.

    I do it, because it's interesting and because I've been doing similar stuff for the last 30 years on and off.  Maybe your son might find it interesting or just something to do for the odd hour here and there.  Anyway, just a thought.

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  • 7 months ago

    So has you son got any skills in IT?  If he has, maybe he should give this a go.  Maybe not as a way into a job, but as something to amuse himself and do while he trues to find work.

    https://cybermillion.immersivelabs.online/signin

    It was previously the Neurodivergent Cyber Academy, a project sponsored by the Government (I believe) and partially run through NAS, at least that's how I got into it.  I actually applied before my diagnosis and was accepted.

    So it's something to do.  All you need to be able to do is some research, answer some questions, do labs.  You can do it as something interesting, or you could do it to get a job in the IT Security business.  The companies that offer work tend to recruit specifically from the ND end of the pool and from a couple of people I know that work for those companies, they understand the problems ASD and ADHD people have and plus psychologists and other medical staff to help them while at work.

    I do it, because it's interesting and because I've been doing similar stuff for the last 30 years on and off.  Maybe your son might find it interesting or just something to do for the odd hour here and there.  Anyway, just a thought.

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