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Is there any hope?

NAS91219

I'm kind of struggling to see any hope.

I'm in my late 20s, autistic, ADHD and struggle with anxiety (potentially agoraphobia) and possibly other things like OCD or CPTSD but I haven't really explored that in detail.

As it is, I struggle to go anywhere and do anything unless I have family with me, preferably a parent, preferably my Mum. My biggest hurdle is my anxiety, but I am concerned that I've regressed since realising I was autistic so even without the anxiety, there's a lot less I am capable of with ease than when I masked a lot and had support.

Of course I know that you can start again at any age but I struggle to see the hope for me. I am in need of a lot of support and accommodations which means I cannot work, especially due to me not driving and public transport being non-existent. Without the physical aspect of disability, I fear I will not be entitled to benefits and if I am, they'll be taken away as soon as someone can find some bs reason to take them away. I'm incapable of taking care of myself when I have 3 family members financially and physically supporting me so how am I going to cope when I don't have that?

  • was in same situation up to my 30s.... i dunno man... how did i get out of it... it was just luck... and that isnt really a answer suitable to be useful as you cant just trigger luck.

    my luck, i randomly got a job offered randomly at a correct time when i was super depressed to the point i was wanting a job for a social life but this want of a job would likely have only lasted me 1 or 2 days then fizzled out back into doing nothing. so i got lucky.... and i got lucky on crypto too which got me a big lump sum of cash which forced me off universal credit which also gave me ideas and opportunities of how to use it and motivation that i can do something with it if i had a job. all this came together in just luck after luck after luck.... although i guess you can say that before the luck came me putting a risk in crypto.... and also me suffering from loneliness which prompted me to perhaps fake my cv details to cover all my huge years of work gaps and send it to a few places... so i dunno.... it also helped me that i already had a license for a motorbike from ages ago so i could get to work later on when it moved farther away from its first local position. there does seem alot of luck involved but also a bit of suffering and a bit of risk.... and i was also planning for other things and other ideas such as living in a cheap yacht from anchoring in scottish coasts for free which i think is one reason i may have risked going into crypto to try earn a decent lump sum before i need it.

    but yeah... i think the key is.... your thinking of what to do, your thinking of the future. your worrying.... this is a good thing as this i think was the catalyst for me to think and make plans and orchestrate things that eventually lead to these changes and this luck. if you keep worrying you keep thinking and you try make plans you will eventually find a way..... but dont take heart in that, if that cheers you up too much then you may get lazy and not worry enough and not think, so worry, because worry is good, it makes you think, it makes you plan, it makes you see ahead and do things that make the changes. your worry of the future is what will push you into change.