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Can’t cope with change or the not knowing. I also hate being called my full name.

Rach91

Hi my name is Rachel and I am really struggling when a plan might change and the not knowing if it will or not. This has caused a lot of issues for my mental health and my relationship. How can I learn to deal with changes and the not knowing. Also I am fed up of people calling me Rachel when I prefer to be known as Rach. This one person in particular my boyfriend who also has ASD like me I have tried talking to him he won’t listen I have tried correcting him when he says Rachel I say rach back he still doesn’t listen. I have even told him I think he is being disrespectful to my wishes and then causes us to argue and I don’t want to argue over a stupid name. I am so desperate I have even thought about legally changing my name from Rachel to Rach. I really hate these triggers I keep having especially when plans can change and I don’t know what the new plans are going to be. What ways can help me cope? How can I get my boyfriend to respect my wishes on calling me what I prefer and it’s not just him some other friends are like this as well? I feel like screaming when someone calls me Rachel all the time it really annoys me. 

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  • Very few people use my full name I'm L or lu to everybody mostly. What I'm called doesn't matter to me. I prefer it when people don't use my name because then I don't have to talk. LOL.

    Rach91 said:
    I am really struggling when a plan might change and the not knowing if it will or not. This has caused a lot of issues for my mental health

    This is a big thing for me as well and affected my own mental health, leading to my first section ultimately. What I've tried doing is accepting that things can and will change, and to have a backup plan if something does happen causing change.

    It doesn't always work but it does help.

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  • Very few people use my full name I'm L or lu to everybody mostly. What I'm called doesn't matter to me. I prefer it when people don't use my name because then I don't have to talk. LOL.

    Rach91 said:
    I am really struggling when a plan might change and the not knowing if it will or not. This has caused a lot of issues for my mental health

    This is a big thing for me as well and affected my own mental health, leading to my first section ultimately. What I've tried doing is accepting that things can and will change, and to have a backup plan if something does happen causing change.

    It doesn't always work but it does help.

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