Published on 12, July, 2020
We all have really bad days and when I do I often feel I’m floundering and don’t know where to turn to find some comfort and make the world feel like a less completely hostile place. What strategies do you use on those days when everything feels completely overwhelming and bleak and you’re feeling hopeless about life? What helps?
I will ^_^
Do me a favour cabbage.........tell your mum that tonight.
I definitely feel the same. I watch movies and TV series or listen to music. I like towns and cities but they're loud and dangerous I wish they weren't. But I like it when it's quiet. And wish it wasn't dangerous and I wish I wasn't vulnerable and sometimes wish I didn't have these learning disabilities.
Same!
I used to listen to the same music on repeat such a lot when I was young - it used to drive my brother CRAZY. I still do this sometimes.
That’s so nice - I’m sure your mum would love to hear that! I have to say food is the one thing I can still enjoy when I’m in such a bad place mentally. Right now my wonderfully patient husband is cooking us a pasta meal - and I’m so grateful for that.
I really like Would I lie to you - especially when it has Bob Mortimer on :)
That’s really helpful - thank you. I’m going to do that tomorrow. X
Music- listening to the same song on repeat!
Food and my mum ^_^
I like a mix of stuff. Panel shows (Would I Lie to You, 8 Out of 10 Cats, Taskmaster) and sitcoms (Not Going Out, Bad Education).
Yes - ‘keep looking for the alternatives’ wherever possible when it comes to comfort that can be destructive. . Alcohol is my ‘go to’ but it doesn’t really help. It numbs things a bit but it’s a depressive. But sometimes we have nothing but destructive options in our ‘armoury’. I only wish I had the answer. I just want to say to everyone who is struggling that you are not alone. Definitely not alone.
Yes - I love comedy. But when I feel very bleak I can’t contemplate watching it - too much dissonance. I’ve sat here all day unable to do the things I enjoy - it’s like being frozen away from everything joyful. Like there’s a big thick plate of glass between me and life. So weird. What sort of comedy do you love? I love Alan Partridge, the IT Crowd, Motherland.
I’m sorry Goosey - I imagine that’s a very challenging kind of help/comfort to have to turn to. I’ve considered it sometimes, but I have too much health anxiety for that. I’d be too scared and I’d worry I’d end up having to seek medical help - which I have such a dread of. I understand though x I hope you can find alternatives that work for you, and in the meantime: solidarity. Mental pain is hard to live with and anything that helps is hard to walk away from. Take care x
Now you’ve made me curious! I drink alcohol but apart from that I don’t exactly have any vices or do anything illegal. Do feel free to comment - I’ve nothing against illegal forms of self help as long as they don’t harm others!
I know what you mean. You can factually remember that in the past you’ve come through periods like this and yet somehow can’t ‘feel’ that it’s actually possible for that to happen again. I think you’re right about passive things too. Really I know I should DO SOMETHING - like cook a meal or tidy up the house or something. It’s just hard to act on that and actually do it. I’m sorry you have times like this too. I’ve never been part of the ‘autism is a superpower’ thing - because to be honest it often feels more like a disability to me, because it can make everyday life almost impossible sometimes. Sorry for being so negative.
Keep looking for the alternatives Goosey.......please.....you lovely human !
Until last year, I thought that drowning myself in alcohol was the only real help for me. I stopped doing that and looked for alternatives.....but found none......and actually realised that I didn't anything at all. How cool is that !!
It is amazing just how weird and wonderful we all are......lets keep ourselves safe and keep it that way.
From one who knows.......and cares about you mate.
Do you like comedy? I feel a distraction (whatever it is) will help you.
Self harming https me
Not healthy but it does help.
I've been looking for alternatives but so far found nothing.
I find looking at some of my old photos really helps to lift my mood on a bad day. They are a visual reminder of the things I enjoy when I am able to get out and about. Even if I can't get out that day the images remind me of good days in the past and give me hope that more will be to come.