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Ruminating over possible conversations and dissociate.

EuanF

Don't know if anyone else experiences this, but I've been having it a lot the past week. 

Sometimes when my mind wanders it starts to daydream/ruminate on possible conversations I can have with people, particularly those close in my life. It may be in relation to something that's already happened and the conversation is like me trying to predict what my next interaction could be with them. I always get so caught up in it that it's like I dissociate from the real world and I'm having emotional reactions to the conversation in my head. Usually frustration and agitation.

It's really upsetting as I waste emotional energy on this and chances are the conversation will never happen in the real world. I just get lost in fantasy when I just want to feel real and in the world.

I don't know if I've explained this right but does anyone else get this? 

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  • I do the same thing and it tends to lead to me pushing people away as the conversations in my head always turn out negative. 

    I have one close friend who I have explained this to and they asked me to discuss it with them openly. She is really supportive and helps me to understand my thought process. Doing this with her has helped me realise that I have no control over situations or other people’s thoughts and feelings and i am upfront in my need for transparency to assist this. I only have control over my responses to other peoples thought and feelings. 

  • in reply to Sam

    I have definitely pushed people away through spending more time worrying about them deciding to end the friendship or people I'm not even that close with, instead of just appreciating them and their support & friendship.

    I regret not being more open with them about that. I'm glad you have that.

    The problem is I'd be constantly worried that I'm heaping too much on them as my friends aren't my therapists and I would never want them to be.

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  • in reply to Sam

    I have definitely pushed people away through spending more time worrying about them deciding to end the friendship or people I'm not even that close with, instead of just appreciating them and their support & friendship.

    I regret not being more open with them about that. I'm glad you have that.

    The problem is I'd be constantly worried that I'm heaping too much on them as my friends aren't my therapists and I would never want them to be.

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