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Pulling the plug

A5hley

I’m going to open with a little apology- I commented on a topic that was about being fed up with being ASD but instead ranted on about my relationship. It was relevant in the sense that; if I wasn’t non-nt then I wouldn’t be struggling like I do.
anyway… decided to start my own thing, feel free to keep it going

Do you ever feel like walking away ? 
Probably a daft question, or maybe not so daft. 

I really want to at times. I mean really really! I feel like such a failure and I can’t do or say anything right. I get told how rude I am and how uncomfortable I make the room. I’m no fun to be around. I have perhaps, one friend because anybody that I thought were friends have backed off and left me wondering what I said or how I acted. 

I just feel like I’d be better off out of it. Certainly those around me would be better off without me. 

i don’t want to leave my home or my daughter but I just don’t know what else to do and I really hate the fact I’m here just to see the mortgage is paid. 

im tired of it all, life as a whole. 

  • DO NOT walk away from your kid would be my advice, based on my own experience.

    I didn't have the big fight with mum, and got good access, but it still sucked...

  • A5hley said:
    Do you ever feel like walking away ?

    Yes, but from the times I have done so I have come to realise that running away is just abdicating responsibility for the mess I made for myself.

    I found it is important to work on the root causes of why the relationship is turning sour, deal with the personal issues I had and develop an open and clear line of communication with my partner about what is going on.

    It is hard - sometimes painfully so and it will take its own toll on your energy but if you chose to run away then I think you will find yourself in a similar situation again in the future because you never dealt with the things that get you to that point.

    What is that phrase "those who do not learn from the past are doomed to relive it"?

    A5hley said:
    i don’t want to leave my home or my daughter but I just don’t know what else to do and I really hate the fact I’m here just to see the mortgage is paid. 

    I don't recall the backstory here but have you tried couples counselling? Having a third party both agree to respect to negotiate a peace between you can be the most effective way to get a more tolerable balance.

    These are only my thoughts on the subject - you are the one having to live it so all I can do is wish you good luck on your decisions.