So I've been married for close to nine years but my wife is constantly telling me to stop shouting even though in my head I'm not shouting. I have a shouting level which I have only ever really used when I've really had to, but it's starting to frustrate me as how am I ment to communicate? Do I have to whisper? I talk the same level as when I'm at work so I'm thinking do people think I shout at work?
Also she says I snap a lot when she's asks me to do stuff even though I don't realise I have done and that if I have given a reply to her in maybe a not so nice way it starts off an argument. For example this morning I was driving her to work because she missed the bus and she was asking her friend on the phone which stop the bus stops at and whether it drives past a certain shop etc and I said "you should know if it does or not, as you get the bus everyday" apparently I'd shouted so she told me off and I didn't even realise I had shouted.
I was basically wondering if there is any help on maybe better controlling how I speak to her and maybe learn how to talk lower or stop shouting as she says? Also does anyone else with ASD get told about this?
She always says to me I'm nice to other people so she knows I can control how I speak. Really confused on this matter any help would be greatly appreciated.
