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I am worried about my son's MH

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I am worried about my son's mental wellbeing. He is 18 and therefore classed as an adult. He says he's fine and will not seek help. I've seen the GP and he says there's nothing he can do without my son going to see him first. My son sleeps all day, rarely eats and never leaves the house. He was diagnosed ASD in May but refusing to engage with the diagnosis. All the doors I've tried just say he has to be in a place where he can accept help and he's clearly not there yet. So I just sit back and do nothing???

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  • Hello 

    I have historically been in a bad way mentally when I was younger and still living at home with my parents. When they shouted and riled at me for not doing what they wanted I retreated, got scared and hid in my room on my own which just made things worse. 

    When they were tender and understanding and encouraging, this really helped. You want to start small. Maybe he won't come out of his room? Offer to make his favourite meal, so he comes down stairs. He won't leave the house? Pick something you really love, like maybe he loves animals and you suggest a trip to a petting zoo or a farm. It might have to be babysteps, but keeping on keeping on will be key. Not in a nagging way or making him feel bad way. Explain that you want to see him thrive and live a full life. 

    Has he ever worked or had hobbies? Try and lean into those things more. 

    I'm sorry you're going through this it is really hard to watch someone live in his shoes. Well done for trying. 

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  • Hello 

    I have historically been in a bad way mentally when I was younger and still living at home with my parents. When they shouted and riled at me for not doing what they wanted I retreated, got scared and hid in my room on my own which just made things worse. 

    When they were tender and understanding and encouraging, this really helped. You want to start small. Maybe he won't come out of his room? Offer to make his favourite meal, so he comes down stairs. He won't leave the house? Pick something you really love, like maybe he loves animals and you suggest a trip to a petting zoo or a farm. It might have to be babysteps, but keeping on keeping on will be key. Not in a nagging way or making him feel bad way. Explain that you want to see him thrive and live a full life. 

    Has he ever worked or had hobbies? Try and lean into those things more. 

    I'm sorry you're going through this it is really hard to watch someone live in his shoes. Well done for trying. 

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