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dealing with change

Fen

Hi there, first time on here, I was wondering if anyone else on here struggle with change? Especially changes in plans or plans gone wrong, and if you had any tips on how to deal with it? Blush

Parents

  • Welcome.

    Definitely. It depends on the situation how I manage it. For example if a dental appointment is postponed a distance away from the date that gives me a sense of relief. However if something I don't want to do is postponed it can be a challenge as I have already got worked up, tried to plan and look forward to it being over, so I am exhausted, but gained nothing.

    Sometimes as I overthink everything I have a plan for an unexpected change. For example one year I decided to book someone to entertain at my son's birthday to make things easier. As the time got nearer I dreamt they didn't turn up so started to work out what I would do if they didn't. The dream came true and I worked out something to do for a while and had fortunately asked a friend who was more confident to help so she came up with more ideas. After this however we were offered a repeat for free. I declined as couldn't face any more.

    I guess my only recommendation is plan for a possible change of plan, so it is less of a surprise. 

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  • Welcome.

    Definitely. It depends on the situation how I manage it. For example if a dental appointment is postponed a distance away from the date that gives me a sense of relief. However if something I don't want to do is postponed it can be a challenge as I have already got worked up, tried to plan and look forward to it being over, so I am exhausted, but gained nothing.

    Sometimes as I overthink everything I have a plan for an unexpected change. For example one year I decided to book someone to entertain at my son's birthday to make things easier. As the time got nearer I dreamt they didn't turn up so started to work out what I would do if they didn't. The dream came true and I worked out something to do for a while and had fortunately asked a friend who was more confident to help so she came up with more ideas. After this however we were offered a repeat for free. I declined as couldn't face any more.

    I guess my only recommendation is plan for a possible change of plan, so it is less of a surprise. 

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