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Am I just not good enough?

Lauren (she/her)

So I've lost many friends over the past few years and fell out with a lot of people due to not being able to read facially expressions very well or notice when a mood has changed. I was diagnosed back in 2016 but it seems to be affecting every aspect of my life very recently. I have university work to be doing and hobbies to keep my mind off of this, but I'm finding it really hard and feel I have no friends anymore. I've been told I'm annoying, and have been bullied in the past so I take things to heart when I probably shouldn't. Can anyone help with this advice wise or has been in similar situations to myself? 

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  • Bullying is never acceptable. When it comes to a choice between loneliness and dealing with toxic, I prefer loneliness.

    All I can say that many, many people here struggle with this one. Rejection hurts. Autism can get in the way of making friends the way many people would, and it sounds as though you are judging yourself by the standards of neurotypicals. 

    Why not look for websites, this one too, and look for ways to network with people here who share the same interests, without trying to look for friends for friendship's sake, which by the way can be a recipe for continued lack of success anyway?

    Has anyone ever told you what they mean when they say they find you annoying? It might say more about them than you, but it might be helpful to know. 

    Sadly there are plenty of other ways to lose friends. Moving away, cultural differences, when the other wants love not friendship, cancer, suicide,  drinking oneself to death......

    So a sharing of mutual interests might help, a compatible spiritual community becaise thos is something that can be as inclusive as family ties with less investment in ego. And would you be in a position to have pets? Companionship doesn't have to be just human.....

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  • Bullying is never acceptable. When it comes to a choice between loneliness and dealing with toxic, I prefer loneliness.

    All I can say that many, many people here struggle with this one. Rejection hurts. Autism can get in the way of making friends the way many people would, and it sounds as though you are judging yourself by the standards of neurotypicals. 

    Why not look for websites, this one too, and look for ways to network with people here who share the same interests, without trying to look for friends for friendship's sake, which by the way can be a recipe for continued lack of success anyway?

    Has anyone ever told you what they mean when they say they find you annoying? It might say more about them than you, but it might be helpful to know. 

    Sadly there are plenty of other ways to lose friends. Moving away, cultural differences, when the other wants love not friendship, cancer, suicide,  drinking oneself to death......

    So a sharing of mutual interests might help, a compatible spiritual community becaise thos is something that can be as inclusive as family ties with less investment in ego. And would you be in a position to have pets? Companionship doesn't have to be just human.....

    .

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