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Other American things annoy me as well, not just spellings.

imdonenow

That's including ESRB, a system that gives video games labels of suitability. But not about that, it's the way their labels always get used and shown more for games than PEGI does on the internet these days, like commonly the "E" one (meaning "Everyone"). To be quite frank, I get very annoyed even occasionally or rarely seeing their labels 95% of the time, rather than naturally coming across PEGI labels like "3" that I'm much more used to and comfortable with. Why doesn't anyone else find this a problem as well? Why is it always me suffering mentally from this and being ruined on things I otherwise like? Why does America try to make everything their way? -_-

I had to make this topic and share the issue because...it really got to me in upset right now, forcing me to utter my own feelings out. I've been unintendedly receiving inward jolts from this issue so many times in my life. Please don't try to make me any worse if you have something to say. I mean it well, and no joke either. Understand?

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  • LIght sigh... I have no idea what specifically you're referring to. But "America" has a long-standing history of doing what they want regardless of who it impacts. Being originally raised there, I can tell you a good deal of people might do the work to extract themselves from this insular thinking. And many won't. 

    Most of it seems - not quite driven by, so much as further provoked by corporate branding, psychologically bent to hack into the Neurotypical need to be unique - even at the cost of being correct.

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    That's ridiculous... How come you've not heard about ESRB, or get my clear sense on it? Go look it up and see for yourself.

  • in reply to imdonenow

    It's OK that someone is unfamiliar with a thing. We all have different interests. And it's also OK that others don't understand a thing. Communication should be about helping another understand - or want to understand what I'm communicating. That's why it's my job to learn a foreign language when I go to another country - it's not everyone else's job to learn to speak with me. 

    You may not intend to be dismissive, and perhaps others tell you what to do "go look this up" or "go Do This", but making a demand or command isn't a kind way of engaging with others. The problem is, if I didn't know you were autistic, I might be responsive and cruel back. How you suggest others become companions on your quest is important. It's more inspiriting to say, "If you want, you can look up how interesting it is at this site (include the site), but ESRB is essentially... (help us understand what it is)".

    Just some small tips for making friends. We cannot expect everyone else to have the time to indulge in our interests. Humans specialise for this very reason. There are too many details in the world and too little time to gain understanding in everything. 

  • in reply to imdonenow

    I'm here to help. I would say the same to my son who's 26 because I care about how autistics are perceived and responded to :)  When I was young, I was given similar advice but rarely was anyone gentle with the information. So, I can appreciate how hard it can be to hear.

    You sounded frustrated and even though I don't understand all the details, I was willing to help with one, which I felt was important and I have some understanding with. 

    In this situation, afford others room to be limited by the piece of the information they do have and would like to share (since you were asking). And then if you want, share what they've expressed they don't know if they're open. Often, this is how we hope others will connect with us :)  

    I'm sorry it felt harsh.

    This forum is a little like any quest - finding answers we can use in real life by wondering into a 'room' or thread and exchanging knowledge. 

  • in reply to imdonenow

    A good way of assessing the tone of something that you have written, is to read it as though it was written by someone else and directed at you. If you then feel that you might react to it as being harsh or unkind, moderate your expressions.

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey
    JuniperFromGallifrey said:
    but making a demand or command isn't a kind way of engaging with others

    "Isn't a kind way"...for some reason that felt a bit hurtful to me as well, sorry to be defensive. Pensive Well then let me say it again but in a nice way... If you don't know ESRB, just search online and look at their site or pictures to know what I've been meaning. Simple. Is that OK now? Did I not sound rather forcing? Nothing personal. But just remember that everyone is imperfect, and I'm no worse than the really violent people are out there. I still have made good achievements in real life and online, believe it or not. I have my own space of knowing, liking and doing things, and so do you and the rest have their own.

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  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey
    JuniperFromGallifrey said:
    but making a demand or command isn't a kind way of engaging with others

    "Isn't a kind way"...for some reason that felt a bit hurtful to me as well, sorry to be defensive. Pensive Well then let me say it again but in a nice way... If you don't know ESRB, just search online and look at their site or pictures to know what I've been meaning. Simple. Is that OK now? Did I not sound rather forcing? Nothing personal. But just remember that everyone is imperfect, and I'm no worse than the really violent people are out there. I still have made good achievements in real life and online, believe it or not. I have my own space of knowing, liking and doing things, and so do you and the rest have their own.

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  • in reply to imdonenow

    I'm here to help. I would say the same to my son who's 26 because I care about how autistics are perceived and responded to :)  When I was young, I was given similar advice but rarely was anyone gentle with the information. So, I can appreciate how hard it can be to hear.

    You sounded frustrated and even though I don't understand all the details, I was willing to help with one, which I felt was important and I have some understanding with. 

    In this situation, afford others room to be limited by the piece of the information they do have and would like to share (since you were asking). And then if you want, share what they've expressed they don't know if they're open. Often, this is how we hope others will connect with us :)  

    I'm sorry it felt harsh.

    This forum is a little like any quest - finding answers we can use in real life by wondering into a 'room' or thread and exchanging knowledge. 

  • in reply to imdonenow

    A good way of assessing the tone of something that you have written, is to read it as though it was written by someone else and directed at you. If you then feel that you might react to it as being harsh or unkind, moderate your expressions.