Hi,
My husband who I’ve been with for 16 years has just been diagnosed as being autistic, I am really struggling to cope as I feel he has withdrawn further and uses his autistic diagnosis to enable him to do this. I am a very emotional person and we tend to clash a lot. My heart has been hurt very much by some of his actions and words over the years but I would like to find a way forward where I can accept that what he does and says isn’t meant to hurt me. We both have short fuses which won’t help either.
I particularly struggle asking him to do certain things like mow the lawn or empty the dishwasher as I know he doesn’t want to do it, he will argue and argue about why he shouldn’t have to do it, he did it last week, he’s busy on x-box, wants to do something more interesting etc!
I’m probably not explaining things very well and I don’t want to sound like woe is me and that it is all his fault because it isn’t. I should be more tolerant, I should be more organised, I should assume more responsibility. A lot of the time things are ok. We’re having a tense few days and I’m struggling.
Are there any coping strategies other people have used? Are there procedures you have put in place to reduce what we call flash points?
Help
