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Want to retreat but know that wouldn't be helpful

Stripymouse

Hi!  Everything that is happening in life, both personal and in a wider society view, is causing me to want to retreat, forget it all and just be alone.  However, overall that's not what I want!  I can be a very social person, albeit in small amounts, and I want to have friends and be accepted.  I struggle with this so much and don't know what to do about it.  I've tried to be a good friend to people over the years and have been supportive and interested in them etc yet something about me still seems to mean I end up mostly on my own.  Anyway, I welcome anyone with advice or just sympathy or anyone who wants to make friends! 

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  • Depressive attacks go as quickly as they come; The sun will come up again if you wait for it.

    A good idea was to find a means of distracting yourself, we can do that here, but it helps to have a couple advisories as a backups:
    - Engage in your special interest;   
    - Try to remove yourself from the source of the trigger;   
    - Seek help from a person you trust to stabilise your emotions;   
    - And most importantly, don’t increase the offensive-against yourself (In this case, going into hermit mode, is definitely not something you want to normalise).

    This trusted person is usually going to take the form of someone, with the most of these traits:   
    - Calm;    
    - Distracting, who does not cause relapse;  
    -  Stays with you;  
    -  Doesn’t try to fix it;    
    -  Respects your personal space;    
    -  Listens and doesn’t appease;    
    -  Reminds you that it will pass;    
    -  Minimally engages you in conversation;    
    -  Creates a sanctuary from your environment;  
    -  Avoids eye contact;  
    -  Encourages your special interest;  
    -  And let’s you rant.  

    It is however a rare individual who embodies all of these traits, the online community embodies a-lot of these, which is likely why Autistic Individual are so inclined towards the internet. I hope this helps..Fist

  • in reply to DeSpereaux

    Thanks DeSpereaux, that's excellent advice!

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