Want to retreat but know that wouldn't be helpful

Hi!  Everything that is happening in life, both personal and in a wider society view, is causing me to want to retreat, forget it all and just be alone.  However, overall that's not what I want!  I can be a very social person, albeit in small amounts, and I want to have friends and be accepted.  I struggle with this so much and don't know what to do about it.  I've tried to be a good friend to people over the years and have been supportive and interested in them etc yet something about me still seems to mean I end up mostly on my own.  Anyway, I welcome anyone with advice or just sympathy or anyone who wants to make friends! 

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  • I can relate to what you have described here and it's similar to how I've been feeling lately. I'm not sure I'm the best person to advise on any of this given that I'm still muddling through, but some things I've been asking lately are: is there a pattern as to why people move away and leave me on my own? Is there anything I want from the other person/people that would make socialising 'easier' for me? What specifically do I struggle with when socialising?

    I know they are tricky to answer but might be a starting point. Sorry I can't be of more help - looking forward to what others suggest! :)

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  • I can relate to what you have described here and it's similar to how I've been feeling lately. I'm not sure I'm the best person to advise on any of this given that I'm still muddling through, but some things I've been asking lately are: is there a pattern as to why people move away and leave me on my own? Is there anything I want from the other person/people that would make socialising 'easier' for me? What specifically do I struggle with when socialising?

    I know they are tricky to answer but might be a starting point. Sorry I can't be of more help - looking forward to what others suggest! :)

Children