Therapy

Oh that’s awful... I’m so sorry. I don’t know but can you get someone else? This just does not sound good at all. The therapist is super uninformed... did the therapist  know in advance that you are autistic? Because if they did it is even less acceptable- being uninformed is one thing but then I feel like it is their duty to remedy that and to at least not make comments about something they clearly have no clue about... 

I desperately need help with stress and anxiety management actually as it’s having a huge impact (including on eating, health, sleep etc) and I’ve tried various therapists in UK and other countries and sadly so far they have been useless at best and some even caused harm. I have lost hope a bit and feel let down but I do think there are people out there that can help. I would just be very careful with possibly  incompetent therapists like the one you saw... as they can cause harm. I really hope you can get someone else or if you can’t and you want to give this one another chance I hope your current therapist puts some time into informing themselves- you could even raise it that what happened last time was unhelpful and not ok. Listen to your instincts, if it doesn’t feel right maybe better to not see that person again.. 

The rapist. Put them together and what have you got?

Someone being paid good money to talk down to you.

Probably a bit cynical, but I'd be more inclined to want to participate if we both got paid...

The rapist. Put them together and what have you got?

Someone being paid good money to talk down to you.

Probably a bit cynical, but I'd be more inclined to want to participate if we both got paid...

Teachings are eternal, and yes they're important, not longer as valued everywhere else

I'm polish I've been raised in a similar way, until it dawned on me that they don't see me as one of them.

believers should leave judging others to god, but they don't, and by commenting and talking about crimes on social media, they help to propagate their normalization.

At age 52, living in the U.K. 20 years but growing up in a very tight and restrictive Irish society in Rural Ireland where the tenents of Catholic Social Teachings lingered and held sway long after Vatican II, what I’m grateful for was that I was lucky to have escaped the worst of the abuses and corruption of the Catholic Church and it’s teachings that my parents generation suffered under as children after the Catholic Church had been infiltrated by those with evil intentions, as we have now come to realise - to us Irish and in traditional Irish culture, the role of the Catholic Church and its teachings is still very important to us, as I see with my extended family members in Rural Ireland, given our country’s history 

That reminds me that my dad worked briefly in a bookies as a young man and some guy came in to put a bet on a horse, uttering the legend ‘I’ll put a tenner (or sixties equivalent) on Hypno the Rapist’

I dread to think what someone who didn't know me well would think if they were to step inside my home and have a good look around. 

Yes, one can learn a lot about a person just by looking at their possessions, how things are arranged, etc. Whilst I'm not one to go snooping in drawers and the like on the rare occasions I'm in other people's homes - well, not unless there is some kind of emergency and there is a justifiable reason to - I do like having a nosey at what is in open view... Books, CDs, DVDs, etc.

Your plan sounds most excellent. One might be inclined to wonder if you had played a part in the psychology degree your daughter is currently doing.  A case of, "It would be really handy to have a psychologist in the family. I wonder if my daughter's ever considered a career as a psychologist!" 

I've spent a lot of time in psychiatrists and other therapists offices.

As an I.T. engineer, waiting for windows to update, looking around and reading stuff out of curiosity.

You get a real flavour of what people are about when sitting at their desk, looking at how they set up their bit of space, what they choose to have in it etc. I was decent enough not to "mooch" but if it's in open view it's fair game for me to look at, read, evaluate etc.

One guy had a swivel chair that was so old I'm sure it must have been owned by Sigmund Freud's cocaine dealer. They all seemed to have copius freebies with words like "Seroquel" written on them, except the "antique collectors" office which was very austere if I remember correctly. Once you've seem 'em as human beings and looked at their workspace they don't seem so awesome.

To be honest, I'm just jealous!

When I Got my diagnosis there was no after care or help to adjust, the exact words being "there is no treatment for you"... And a handful of internet addresses. Given that Applying (for many reason) is a real achilles heel for me, that wasn't so helpful. 

I have a plan. My kid is doing a psychology degree... I should be able to get a service more tailored for my needs, if I am lucky, in a year or two's time. 

There is another side of that issue happening alongside - normalization of horrible and atrocious acts in a society. Generation growing up these days no longer perceives those things as crimes, for them it's publicity.

I had to read that first line a few times before it made sense I Sperg.