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Steven

I made myself ill yesterday, but also likely made other people sick (at least, of me). While, of course, there are some behaviours that we literally cannot help it is still possible to look before we leap into chaos, dragging others along for the wild ride. Over-thinking and misinterpretation of words, events and actions are a curse, and not only to us; their effect on people we care about can be a greater curse. This post is a self-reprimand but also a plea: please, please, if you can possibly help it all then try to restrict your over-thinking to your own mind and don't unload onto others while loading them with the responsibility to fix or comfort you. Don't burden them with True Confessions or insane, endless worries, while hoping that their natural and above-duty kindness and patience will save or sooth you...again. This post is not an attempt to blame anyone who has similar issues to me - it's a hope that they can be better than I am in controlling these issues. Please, if you're at all able - and I do realise that it's very hard - think before you act. Don't be me - be better.

On a lesser note, please don't misunderstand my post as a cry for help, something you need to respond to because you may be concerned about my state of mind. I am 'fine' now, my head has cleared, in the same sense that someone with a drink problem has woken afresh to find the place trashed but has left others to clear up and rebuild. Don't worry about me - that isn't the point of my post at all.

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  • Simon, I read some of the things you posted on here yesterday. For what it's worth, I felt you were being far too harsh on yourself. Whilst I appreciate you have stated that your post isn't a cry for help and that you're not looking for sympathy, I am saddened that you made yourself ill yesterday.

    I would like to think that when members do feel the need to unburden themselves on this site, they do so without the expectation that other members will come along, wave a magic wand, and make all their troubles miraculously go away. I feel that if members feel the need to unburden themselves, then they should feel able to do so. If other members wish to be a shoulder to cry on and want to try to lift someone's spirits, then I think that is great... Not because they feel that they should, but because they genuinely want to. 

    Just to add, I am not attempting to dismiss what you have stated in your post and imply that you are wrong for the thoughts you have expressed. Relaxed

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  • Simon, I read some of the things you posted on here yesterday. For what it's worth, I felt you were being far too harsh on yourself. Whilst I appreciate you have stated that your post isn't a cry for help and that you're not looking for sympathy, I am saddened that you made yourself ill yesterday.

    I would like to think that when members do feel the need to unburden themselves on this site, they do so without the expectation that other members will come along, wave a magic wand, and make all their troubles miraculously go away. I feel that if members feel the need to unburden themselves, then they should feel able to do so. If other members wish to be a shoulder to cry on and want to try to lift someone's spirits, then I think that is great... Not because they feel that they should, but because they genuinely want to. 

    Just to add, I am not attempting to dismiss what you have stated in your post and imply that you are wrong for the thoughts you have expressed. Relaxed

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