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Constant sense of dread

ConstantRepeat

I'm living with this underlying sense of dread all the time as if something terrible is about to happen. I'm always worrying about something bad happening to my loved ones in particular, and whenever I say goodbye to one of them I have an awful feeling as though it might be the last time I see them. I'm just always waiting for disaster to strike and it's having a really negative effect on my life. I guess it's my brain realising how unpredictable the world is and being unable to accept it. I was just wondering if anyone else here deals with this and if anyone has found a way to ease the stress.

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  • I think if it stems from stress and anxiety which is highly likely, then you need to address that. You need to find a way to manage your stress levels etc. cut back, take me time, sort your sleep, and also think about getting some help to manage those thoughts and challenge them, and put them into perspective.

    It can sometimes stem from depression. Might be worth having a chat with your GP, especially if it’s ruling your life.

  • in reply to Catlover

    Two things which are relevant to me that I hope *might* provide an insight or clue for others going through similar problems to those of ConstantRepeat and me:

    1. I was very, very late - compared to many people - to understand that people are mortal. Late twenties or early thirties. I am generally slow in realising things which are obvious to others.  Finally realising this basic fact of life was incredibly depressing for me. An absolute crisis. I still don't quite believe it's true (i.e. I struggle to accept this obvious fact).

    2. My fear of the phone ringing, the door being knocked, and all sorts of out-of-the-blue communication was worsened by my receiving unexpected news of a bereavement; that shock has never faded, and I've lost my sense of proportion - I constantly expect unanticipated communication to be bad or frightening news.

    Both of these things, I think, are associated with CR's issues even though my own may appear rather different. 

  • in reply to Steven

    Youve certainly got into an unhealthy thought process with the phone/doorbell thingy. You’ll need to unlearn that. You need to be able to see that The actual doorbell/phone is not the problem. The way you were contacted  ‘out of the blue’ instance was the trigger, because it was something you couldn’t possibly have planned for. It was a shock. CBT might be helpful for this. 

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  • in reply to Steven

    Youve certainly got into an unhealthy thought process with the phone/doorbell thingy. You’ll need to unlearn that. You need to be able to see that The actual doorbell/phone is not the problem. The way you were contacted  ‘out of the blue’ instance was the trigger, because it was something you couldn’t possibly have planned for. It was a shock. CBT might be helpful for this. 

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