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How to understand my emotions better?

NAS82520

Recently I've come to understand how bad I am with emotions. I've spent most of my life ignoring them, pushing my needs and feelings away. I want to improve myself but Ive come to understand that building any relationship is hard with how I am. I don't know how to express what I feel and I am often confused with my reactions and deciding if I am over or underecting to things. It makes saying no, puting boundaries and healing impossible. But I don't know where to start because I am completely detached from them.

So if anyone was in similar situation and got better please help, or if there are resources or something.

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  • I've also had to suppress a lot of emotion.  Combining that with alexithymia makes it even harder.

    Part of it for me is doing regular physical check ins: what is my body trying to tell me?  If I'm feeling shaky or sick or have a feeling in my stomach, that could be anxiety.  If I'm feeling hot or that I need to act, that could be anger.  If I'm lethargic and don't want to do things, that might be sadness or depression. Conversely, if I'm feeling bouncy and full of energy, then I'm probably very happy.

    Also asking a trusted someone to help you identify emotions can help.  If there isn't somebody to do that, try to take a step back at look at your reactions and analyse them.  For me it was, I'm getting snappy with the kids, so I might be under stress.  Or becoming more withdrawn and finding it hard to speak means I'm very upset.

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  • I've also had to suppress a lot of emotion.  Combining that with alexithymia makes it even harder.

    Part of it for me is doing regular physical check ins: what is my body trying to tell me?  If I'm feeling shaky or sick or have a feeling in my stomach, that could be anxiety.  If I'm feeling hot or that I need to act, that could be anger.  If I'm lethargic and don't want to do things, that might be sadness or depression. Conversely, if I'm feeling bouncy and full of energy, then I'm probably very happy.

    Also asking a trusted someone to help you identify emotions can help.  If there isn't somebody to do that, try to take a step back at look at your reactions and analyse them.  For me it was, I'm getting snappy with the kids, so I might be under stress.  Or becoming more withdrawn and finding it hard to speak means I'm very upset.

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