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How to stop overthinking

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I have bad anxiety and I easily start overthinking about the little things that don't even matter. I get anxious even if there is a little bit change in the behaviour of the people around me. I really wanna get out of this loop. What should I do?

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  • Be aware of it. Be so completely aware at all times so that you see the patterns that you fall into. Don’t try to do anything about it or try to think your way out of it. Just be curious and observe so that you catch the first thought that starts you on the snowballing. And if you aren’t able to catch it straight away that kind of observation will help you to catch when it went too far so that you can bring yourself back to “zero”. Don’t judge yourself or condemn yourself. And don’t be afraid of anxiety. Just give your full attention all the time. And if it goes too far and the anxiety gets bad once you realise that your train of thought led you to negative feelings and you’re clear about that intellectually, turn and face the feelings. Quiet down your thoughts to stop the train (which will happen automatically if you really see how it happened) and turn and face the feeling of anxiety like a warrior establishing dominance over a predator. That’s what works for me. I don’t worry about “a look” or “change in subtle behaviour” anymore. I still have anxiety but it’s mainly brought on by my children. A parent always worries. 

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  • Be aware of it. Be so completely aware at all times so that you see the patterns that you fall into. Don’t try to do anything about it or try to think your way out of it. Just be curious and observe so that you catch the first thought that starts you on the snowballing. And if you aren’t able to catch it straight away that kind of observation will help you to catch when it went too far so that you can bring yourself back to “zero”. Don’t judge yourself or condemn yourself. And don’t be afraid of anxiety. Just give your full attention all the time. And if it goes too far and the anxiety gets bad once you realise that your train of thought led you to negative feelings and you’re clear about that intellectually, turn and face the feelings. Quiet down your thoughts to stop the train (which will happen automatically if you really see how it happened) and turn and face the feeling of anxiety like a warrior establishing dominance over a predator. That’s what works for me. I don’t worry about “a look” or “change in subtle behaviour” anymore. I still have anxiety but it’s mainly brought on by my children. A parent always worries. 

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