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How long before sending a romantic interest another message?

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I have been speaking to someone online that I fancy romantically, and we are both open about liking each other (we’ve called each other cute). I was going to message him about arranging a video call as when I explained to him I’d like to keep talking online then progress to a video call he agreed it sounded good. However, I last messaged him on Wednesday just generally asking him what he'd done at the gym (he says he'd just been). He saw it at some point yesterday or this morning but hasn't replied yet. It's the first time that this has happened, it has pretty much been the typical back and forth volleyball up until this point. Do you think I can send him another message asking him if he still wants to do a video call (and if so when he's free), and if so, how long should I wait until sending it?

Also, how do I deal with the uncertainty of him not replying in the meantime? It's quite common for me to get anxious when this happens as I worry it will all end.
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  • I think if it's only been one message he hasn't replied to I'd give him another chance and send a message, but trying to get the tone light and not needy, which is hard! There can sometimes be genuine reasons. But it could be that he has changed his mind so brace yourself too.

    How to deal with uncertainty is a much bigger question! Ultimately we just have to live with, and maybe try to reduce it in as many areas as possible, but there is no way to avoid it altogether.

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  • I think if it's only been one message he hasn't replied to I'd give him another chance and send a message, but trying to get the tone light and not needy, which is hard! There can sometimes be genuine reasons. But it could be that he has changed his mind so brace yourself too.

    How to deal with uncertainty is a much bigger question! Ultimately we just have to live with, and maybe try to reduce it in as many areas as possible, but there is no way to avoid it altogether.

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