Any tips to help soothe depression

I'm 23 and i have depression, anxiety and audhd.

I graduated in the summer and ever since everything has felt hard to do due to me hating big changes and the unknown future. In addition coming back home hasn't been helping due to my family not being affectionate or caring at all so the only person i can talk to is my best friend.

When I'm depressed i constantly feels like i'm on a tightrope and anything can tip me over into depression and i can never seem to get out of it. It seeps all the joy i have and makes me want to hit my head to soothe the pain.

Any tips and advice would help me go through adulthood and help my depression. Also i live in the uk and I'm considering therapy but it feels too much for me rn and i don't know what to do.

If you have any questions please feel free to ask me, thank you for listening.

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  • I just had three days of bad depression. I've decided that is simply unacceptable at my age, and has to be sorted out, rather than my usual technique of throwiing more cannabis at the problem. 

    I found that I could easily list 21 different items that were "getting me down, A.K.A sources of personal frustration and lack of "agency") 

    Further more 7 of them are new to me having picked them up in the previous 12 months!!

    I now know why my increased feeling of agency and happiness caused by getting my diagnosis and insights into my autism 2 years ago.have stuttered and I am again falling into poor mental health.

    I intend to take this list and do one of those crime some board things or a spreadsheet where I further analyse which issues are inter related, and how best to neutralise those, perhaps as a matter of priority. I'll also sort out the "easy meat" if there are any and hold off on those for the days when all seems to be failing, and I need a quick success. The intractable ones I will try and clearly identify, and ask for some divine intervention, whilst I focus on the ones I can do. 

    Since making my list, I do a bit on one item per day anyway, until I have a better plan in place....

    When I've proven it to work, and made myself happier, (which can be done, even I have had some moments of genuine innocent bliss in my life, and not all of them cat-related. I also remember a couple of days day when I flew the aeroplane perfectly and really enjoyed it, and a day spent in my bedroom with Andrea Rushton and a bottle of "Elizabethan" Mead)  then maybe it'll prove to be a useful tool, for others like my personal rationale for not doing yourself in, which I am told has worked for others as well as myself.  

    Hope my little testimony is somewhat helpful. There are DEFINITELY learnable / transferrable workarounds available to some psychological issues and WE autists are very well placed to be pioneers, as well as sufferers in this area. We all help each other simply by our non-normal ability to describe these things, honestly and openly, which the normies have a GREAT deal of trouble with, I've noticed...

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  • I just had three days of bad depression. I've decided that is simply unacceptable at my age, and has to be sorted out, rather than my usual technique of throwiing more cannabis at the problem. 

    I found that I could easily list 21 different items that were "getting me down, A.K.A sources of personal frustration and lack of "agency") 

    Further more 7 of them are new to me having picked them up in the previous 12 months!!

    I now know why my increased feeling of agency and happiness caused by getting my diagnosis and insights into my autism 2 years ago.have stuttered and I am again falling into poor mental health.

    I intend to take this list and do one of those crime some board things or a spreadsheet where I further analyse which issues are inter related, and how best to neutralise those, perhaps as a matter of priority. I'll also sort out the "easy meat" if there are any and hold off on those for the days when all seems to be failing, and I need a quick success. The intractable ones I will try and clearly identify, and ask for some divine intervention, whilst I focus on the ones I can do. 

    Since making my list, I do a bit on one item per day anyway, until I have a better plan in place....

    When I've proven it to work, and made myself happier, (which can be done, even I have had some moments of genuine innocent bliss in my life, and not all of them cat-related. I also remember a couple of days day when I flew the aeroplane perfectly and really enjoyed it, and a day spent in my bedroom with Andrea Rushton and a bottle of "Elizabethan" Mead)  then maybe it'll prove to be a useful tool, for others like my personal rationale for not doing yourself in, which I am told has worked for others as well as myself.  

    Hope my little testimony is somewhat helpful. There are DEFINITELY learnable / transferrable workarounds available to some psychological issues and WE autists are very well placed to be pioneers, as well as sufferers in this area. We all help each other simply by our non-normal ability to describe these things, honestly and openly, which the normies have a GREAT deal of trouble with, I've noticed...

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