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tips on how to stop complaining

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I hope you are doing well! Or at least that you are hanging on.

I was just wondering... how do you restrain yourself from complaining to others about your mental health? I find that I always have to bring up something that bothers me and I don't like that. I mean, sure, I am a depressed, anxious and obsessive mess but I should be able to sometimes keep my suffering to myself. I don't want to make it my whole personality. I am more than just my wrecked mental health, even tho I don't feel like it rn. I just want to stop crying to my friends and boyfriend all the time. And so, do you have some tips on how to manage my mental health more "privately"?

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  • I don't. I used to bottle everything up and all I got for it was manic depression and a suicide attempt. I don't do that anymore. I don't lie and say I'm fine when I'm not. If people ask me how I am doing I let them have it with both barrels - and serves them right too. (That last bit was a joke.) But seriously I advise you to don't hold back either. People who love and accept you cannot support you if you are hiding the true depth of your struggles from them. You are not your struggles and you are not a burden or "making it your whole personality" just because this is something you are going through right now.
    And if I were one of your loved ones I'd be more concerned that you are being made to feel that way than by the emotional work load of listening to you. If you feel you can't off-load all of it to the people around you because it's a lot then there's also nothing wrong with casting a wider net for support. Ask your GP to refer you to multiple talk therapists for example. But please don't ever bottle it up at the risk of hurting yourself more in the long run.

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  • I don't. I used to bottle everything up and all I got for it was manic depression and a suicide attempt. I don't do that anymore. I don't lie and say I'm fine when I'm not. If people ask me how I am doing I let them have it with both barrels - and serves them right too. (That last bit was a joke.) But seriously I advise you to don't hold back either. People who love and accept you cannot support you if you are hiding the true depth of your struggles from them. You are not your struggles and you are not a burden or "making it your whole personality" just because this is something you are going through right now.
    And if I were one of your loved ones I'd be more concerned that you are being made to feel that way than by the emotional work load of listening to you. If you feel you can't off-load all of it to the people around you because it's a lot then there's also nothing wrong with casting a wider net for support. Ask your GP to refer you to multiple talk therapists for example. But please don't ever bottle it up at the risk of hurting yourself more in the long run.

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