Hiya all
I have had some difficulties with Alcohol and have tried in the past to get some help but didn't work out.
I obviously have had some difficulties with people talking negatively about it and it seems that there are some people that don't understand the issues. They can be very rude about it and mock it like this just an excuse.
I turned round and explained to this lady that my dad had a problem with alcohol and i thought that it might run in the family, she just scolded me and said "No just because your father does this, you don't have to do this or be like him" I replied ok but having autism it got me upset and I am afraid to say something to her and she wound me up but I just keep it inside. I also noticed that I carry an orange bag around with me and it has all my private stuff in it like my alcohol bottle that I bought with my own money. I obviously have privacy rights and I don't want people looking through my possessions or pouring the liquor down the sink. What I mean is I don't want people accessing it and when I leave to go to the shop and the staff (in my supported accommodation) I don't want them randomly getting it and sneakily pouring it down the drain. Staff told me to leave my orange bag upstairs, but I don't want anyone walking into my room and getting the bottle which has happened before. sneakily they do this. I am not going to just assume but at times I know who is doing this and who isn't. I spend a lot of money on alcohol, but people just see me as making excuses and not able to resolve problems or issues. For me having autism it is very hard for me to do this. The arrogance that people have nowadays, and the selfishness is so hard but as autistic people we are very sensitive to these things we get hurt easily we mis read social situations it's not our fault. I mean maybe the staff are trying to care but they have also got to respect my boundaries too. It's my orange bag, my possession and I bought it with my own personal money so i find it very rude that the staff in my supported accomodation are talking to me in a sarcastic tone or trying to put me down because of it. these sorts of things are very hard, and it makes me feel uncomfortable.
I wish I could tell them to stop, I don't need it and I feel like they should put themselves in my shoes, it just selfishness. They told me to put the orange bag in my room because I need to go shopping with the staff I am not allowed to go shopping independently without staff supervising me as that's what my adoptive mother and I have agreed. My adoptive mother thinks I am going to use the extra shopping money to spend on alcohol. I personally wouldn't do this so there is this chaos and what not because there is this lack of disorganisation which causes me to get frustrated and upset and highly anxious.
I kind of put into practice of asserting my needs but it seemed that they didn't respect that when I told them I wanted to just take my orange shopping bag that my alcohol in it and what not with me I have had 0 issues all along and nothing has happened. I was even asked my one of the staff "do i have a receipt for that?" it's not really her concern.
I have to respect their boundaries and they need to respect mine it works both ways to be honest with you!
