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Anxiety and building a "model of the world", how much probability do you need to validate a theory?

Annie

Observing how my 11 years old half-verbal (he can speak but it is not his natural way of expressing himself) autistic boy develops, I feel most of his anxiety and low self-esteem comes from not being able to predict situations. From very early on I noticed that a single counter example could have him invalidate a belief he had acquired over many instances. As he is growing up and developing secondary emotions this problems seems to come back each time he is building a new vision of the world that comes along with this new emotion (e.g. shame, guilt, confidence, delusion). As if all of sudden many things would again be totally unpredictable for him.

Has anyone experienced something along these lines?  Is it something typical of autistic people?

Parents

  • You could do worse than encourage him to study Jesus Christ. The gospels are quite "accessible" to the young, and actually gain more nuance as you get older. The stuff I learned as a kid about how to treat people and what is best avoided has been very useful to me when I was "lost" in life,  even during the times when I had lost my faith completely. ( A good indicator of "value" if you ask me!)

    Also importantly teach him the difference between a short term fix and a LONG term fix.

    A short term fix is like borrowing money or taking stimulant drugs, A long term fix is hand by curtailing your needs, and insisting on your right to go to sleep (or at least take a break) when you are tired.

    Always remember this "difference" (I refuse to call it a disorder) carries huge advantages that are often masked by the artificial nature of our current society.

    In some situations we Autists are invaluable gifts to a community... 

  • in reply to I Sperg

    if you ignore words like Jesus, God, religion etc what's left in a bible is actually good advice, I read it too

  • in reply to Mariusz

    Consider Jesus as a man like yourself Mariusz. Evaluate how he deallt with situations (there are plenty of examples, pick one that is an analog of one you have encountered, and see how it could be done...) 

    Jesus specifically was not about "religion" and more about an alternative way of looking at and living in the world.

    Being IN the world but not OF this world... 

    Disclaimer, Although I testify that god is good, and Jesus gives us some really useful pointers (particularly for a child) Ido not consider I lead a very "Good" or religious life, and it's been a while since I picked up the good book for a bit of life advice, myself. 

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  • in reply to Mariusz

    Consider Jesus as a man like yourself Mariusz. Evaluate how he deallt with situations (there are plenty of examples, pick one that is an analog of one you have encountered, and see how it could be done...) 

    Jesus specifically was not about "religion" and more about an alternative way of looking at and living in the world.

    Being IN the world but not OF this world... 

    Disclaimer, Although I testify that god is good, and Jesus gives us some really useful pointers (particularly for a child) Ido not consider I lead a very "Good" or religious life, and it's been a while since I picked up the good book for a bit of life advice, myself. 

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