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Anxiety and building a "model of the world", how much probability do you need to validate a theory?

Annie

Observing how my 11 years old half-verbal (he can speak but it is not his natural way of expressing himself) autistic boy develops, I feel most of his anxiety and low self-esteem comes from not being able to predict situations. From very early on I noticed that a single counter example could have him invalidate a belief he had acquired over many instances. As he is growing up and developing secondary emotions this problems seems to come back each time he is building a new vision of the world that comes along with this new emotion (e.g. shame, guilt, confidence, delusion). As if all of sudden many things would again be totally unpredictable for him.

Has anyone experienced something along these lines?  Is it something typical of autistic people?

Parents

  • Hi

    It was for me, including speaking. Until 7y.o. I never used to speak longer than 1 word sentences, Until 15 I rarely did that in public. I have memories I understand what people are saying since 4y.o.

    My inhibition to speak was an outcome of few reasons. My natural way of thinking is in pictures and algorythms, so to speak is to try to speak in a foreign language. I learnt how to think fluently in polish and english in adulthood, but I did not start trying that until adolescent. and second reason was stammering, I was affraid of people joking about it. I still stammer when I try to lie, and never finish the sentence.But when I was 15y.o. Ijoined school theatre and they thought me how to pronunce more difficuklt words, and overcome stammering

    Some concepts are difficult to grasp as there is not enough evidence, and explanations given are lacking or in case of feelings often contradictory

    E.g.

    Until adulthood I believed that Lie is a concept created to be used in movies and such, and that people don't lie on daily basis.

    When I was 10 I found out that my actions can hurt others, to literally cause harm after I punched my 1 year younger sister in her nose and it started to bleed, and at the same time I found out how shame feels, Before that I had no idea what shame really means.

    And unpredictability is still scary

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  • Hi

    It was for me, including speaking. Until 7y.o. I never used to speak longer than 1 word sentences, Until 15 I rarely did that in public. I have memories I understand what people are saying since 4y.o.

    My inhibition to speak was an outcome of few reasons. My natural way of thinking is in pictures and algorythms, so to speak is to try to speak in a foreign language. I learnt how to think fluently in polish and english in adulthood, but I did not start trying that until adolescent. and second reason was stammering, I was affraid of people joking about it. I still stammer when I try to lie, and never finish the sentence.But when I was 15y.o. Ijoined school theatre and they thought me how to pronunce more difficuklt words, and overcome stammering

    Some concepts are difficult to grasp as there is not enough evidence, and explanations given are lacking or in case of feelings often contradictory

    E.g.

    Until adulthood I believed that Lie is a concept created to be used in movies and such, and that people don't lie on daily basis.

    When I was 10 I found out that my actions can hurt others, to literally cause harm after I punched my 1 year younger sister in her nose and it started to bleed, and at the same time I found out how shame feels, Before that I had no idea what shame really means.

    And unpredictability is still scary

Children
  • in reply to Mariusz

    Thank you!!! So do you feel more confortable with physics and technology like apps or automated things? Did you find any way to help yourself dealing with unpredictability? Theater is a good tip, thank you! 

    Studying how our brain funccion I understand human beings at large have problems with unpredictability but most people live by illusions (beliefs no counter example can destroy). It seems difficult to find the right balance between oppeness to new ideas and inner safety.