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Other People Affecting your Routine

Homebird

I have tried recently to keep to a routine that is not too challenging and anything that involves socialising or meeting others spread out so I have time to recover.

Recently new neighbours have moved in and work started straight away on improvements. Every day this week has been noisy for my usually calm working at home. I had to have a second walk today to get some peace and quiet, especially as it carries on into the evening.

It is hard when things happen you have no control of or don't know when they will end.

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  • It's not just hard! The term "Indefinite Postponement" comes to mind. 

    If you can, I'd write everything down and work out a way to politely ask them for a reasonable schedule as it's affecting your livelihood. Could they start and finish at a particular time each day? As you sound willing to work around necessary improvements, but you cannot put your life on hold for someone who isn't paying your rent / mortgage. :) 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Last Sunday was quiet so I had hope, but today we have had drilling and banging. We are going out for a drive later and I am trying to pluck up courage to have a discussion regarding quiet times, so I can plan ahead. I just wish things were easier. I plan what I might say to people then I end up feeling awkward and a nuisance.

  • in reply to Homebird

    I feel this! There is some planning involved for us as it seems non-autistic individuals use a sort of hierarchal 'code' to make arrangements and some just manage to block out the noise along with the lack of resolution.

    I've personally found that by always giving a sort of gratitude for another's agreeability in negotiating, they seem more responsive. Most people enjoy feeling appreciated and hopefully it builds a little community - not too much, but just enough to be respectful. 

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  • in reply to Homebird

    I feel this! There is some planning involved for us as it seems non-autistic individuals use a sort of hierarchal 'code' to make arrangements and some just manage to block out the noise along with the lack of resolution.

    I've personally found that by always giving a sort of gratitude for another's agreeability in negotiating, they seem more responsive. Most people enjoy feeling appreciated and hopefully it builds a little community - not too much, but just enough to be respectful. 

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