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Ruminations

Eddie Barrett

Yet another OCD post - been suffering with it a lot. But this post will focus more on ruminations. A long time ago, I was a very, very different person compared to how I am now. I was very impulsive, when I saw something incorrect, I registered it in my head as correct, not because it was, but because I liked who and/or what said it (eg. there was a website that said Brum began in 1992, but it actually started the year before, but the website was an interesting one). 

Looking back at my younger self with kindness isn't something that's terribly easy, especially when you think about all the things you did without knowing any better. Whilst I am aware that everyone has to have made at least one mistake in their life, my own mistakes echo in my head endlessly, including as I type this. I'd be interested to know if any of you have this with your OCD, I don't know much about the disorder (I haven't done a great deal of research, I don't tend to do it on things that depress me) but, from what I've heard, it's a pretty common symptom.

Let me know if any of you have this. It's nice to find some relatability with scenarios like these, especially for the posts I've done on the "miscellaneous" segment of this website about nice things like VHS tapes as well as the serious posts I've done, such as this. 

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  • A mistake is something we tend to take notice of and rectify. What I hear you describing is what psychology would term "Absent Insight". 

    Jung talked a good deal about how most individuals will mentally correct an incorrect thing if it keeps them accepted in a group. It's how group-think happens and how adverts work by persuasion or provocation. All children are impressionable - it's why they're recruited in to the military very young in tyrannical places and young enough in democracies. It's how rock stars are made and why record labels only sign young acts. The phrase that goes with this is "they want it bad enough", meaning they'll do whatever it takes. 

    OCD is an interesting term and also one misused a good deal. It can be easy to mistake vigilance for OCD like mindful calculations and routines we follow no matter what regarding Health & Safety. 

    Rumination without resolve is what I've come to understand "overthinking" means. I can ruminate on injustice at times and just need to remind myself that I'm here, to whatever extent, I can heal and let go (not demand a payment or debt) because I don't have to have said person in my life. I've learned that while time doesn't always heal or help us forgive, it is a great leveller and a reckoning will always come. 

    I think one thing that seems very specific with autism is the desire for Resolve. For me, learning how to problem solve and about roles and responsibilities has helped a great deal.

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  • A mistake is something we tend to take notice of and rectify. What I hear you describing is what psychology would term "Absent Insight". 

    Jung talked a good deal about how most individuals will mentally correct an incorrect thing if it keeps them accepted in a group. It's how group-think happens and how adverts work by persuasion or provocation. All children are impressionable - it's why they're recruited in to the military very young in tyrannical places and young enough in democracies. It's how rock stars are made and why record labels only sign young acts. The phrase that goes with this is "they want it bad enough", meaning they'll do whatever it takes. 

    OCD is an interesting term and also one misused a good deal. It can be easy to mistake vigilance for OCD like mindful calculations and routines we follow no matter what regarding Health & Safety. 

    Rumination without resolve is what I've come to understand "overthinking" means. I can ruminate on injustice at times and just need to remind myself that I'm here, to whatever extent, I can heal and let go (not demand a payment or debt) because I don't have to have said person in my life. I've learned that while time doesn't always heal or help us forgive, it is a great leveller and a reckoning will always come. 

    I think one thing that seems very specific with autism is the desire for Resolve. For me, learning how to problem solve and about roles and responsibilities has helped a great deal.

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