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Anger issues

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I’ve always had anger issues since high school. It got worse as I got older and I think it has ruined many friendships. I’m afraid of losing my current friends now because of my anger issues. How do I cope with them? I don’t like to meditate because it makes me anxious. I do like yoga and I do like to color. I was bullied a lot and I hated myself for being the weird kid in school. How do I learn to let go of my painful past? 

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  • Rather than meditation, what helped me more was putting on favourite music but keeping my focus on a layer of it, like the bass line, and then after a few seconds switch to another layer, and go back to it when thoughts get in the way.  Its mindfulness, rather than meditation - our brains can't focus on senses and thoughts at the same time, so its one or the other, if you want  a break form thoughts then focus on music, or other things you enjoy. The focus bit is the important bit, just listening or doing things isn't enough, you have to force your brain to focus on what you are hearing, seeing, etc.     

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  • Rather than meditation, what helped me more was putting on favourite music but keeping my focus on a layer of it, like the bass line, and then after a few seconds switch to another layer, and go back to it when thoughts get in the way.  Its mindfulness, rather than meditation - our brains can't focus on senses and thoughts at the same time, so its one or the other, if you want  a break form thoughts then focus on music, or other things you enjoy. The focus bit is the important bit, just listening or doing things isn't enough, you have to force your brain to focus on what you are hearing, seeing, etc.     

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