Anger issues

I’ve always had anger issues since high school. It got worse as I got older and I think it has ruined many friendships. I’m afraid of losing my current friends now because of my anger issues. How do I cope with them? I don’t like to meditate because it makes me anxious. I do like yoga and I do like to color. I was bullied a lot and I hated myself for being the weird kid in school. How do I learn to let go of my painful past? 

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  • Meditation can cause difficulties, because you might open up room for thoughts you normally keep at bay, and so best to learn to manage difficult thoughts first.  In a similar way, just trying to relax can cause autistic people a similar effect.

    To be less angry you have to learn to react less to what makes you angry, choose a less angry response, you can just be annoyed instead.  You might want to try an anger management course, or self-help book, because just trying to be less angry doesn't really work, you have to understand what the triggers are and why you react to them with anger. 

    Anger is a normal response if pushed too far, but you are angry too much or for slightest reasons then its the wrong response and something to work on.

    Painful events can cause anger issues, so therapy might help.  People say about letting go, but its not that simple as brains just don't let go, its more a case of learning to hold on to better things.  Brains tend to feed us what we already expect/believe, you have to let your brain know what you don't want, by expecting/believing something better/healthy.

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  • Meditation can cause difficulties, because you might open up room for thoughts you normally keep at bay, and so best to learn to manage difficult thoughts first.  In a similar way, just trying to relax can cause autistic people a similar effect.

    To be less angry you have to learn to react less to what makes you angry, choose a less angry response, you can just be annoyed instead.  You might want to try an anger management course, or self-help book, because just trying to be less angry doesn't really work, you have to understand what the triggers are and why you react to them with anger. 

    Anger is a normal response if pushed too far, but you are angry too much or for slightest reasons then its the wrong response and something to work on.

    Painful events can cause anger issues, so therapy might help.  People say about letting go, but its not that simple as brains just don't let go, its more a case of learning to hold on to better things.  Brains tend to feed us what we already expect/believe, you have to let your brain know what you don't want, by expecting/believing something better/healthy.

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