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adhd or autism !

NAS81209

hi! so i know i dont have to put labels on stuff however it gives me a big sense of reassurance, but the other day i was slightly leaning towards thinking i had adhd but now i think it might be autism. i have been thinking its autism for quite a while though!

do you know any way i can figure out or be 100% sure its autism? i dont exactly qualify as an adult, i am a minor but i did take the raads-r test and got a score of severe signs of autism.

thank youu

ps does anyone also know how i can tell my parents about this? im scared that they wont exactly believe me or "we would have known earlier if it was" or something

thanks again :)

  • in reply to Mariusz

    ah okay im sorry about that, was just stating what the thing said i didn't think about that, really sorry

    Mariusz said:
    for starters, especially that you mentioned that - please avoid labels that are hurtful to some

    but thank you for the information :) 

  • for starters, especially that you mentioned that - please avoid labels that are hurtful to some 

    NAS81209 said:
    severe signs of autism

    you say autistic, that's it, it's not something you can detach from a person, either you are for life or you are not.

    You have to open yourself to a possibility that you won't get along with your parents

    if you're autistic, and your parents won't accept it, they will make your life really miserable with constant nagging, about things you don't do or do wrong in their eyes, while you do it like that for a reason ( e.g. your mental health), or because you're clueless how to do it, and they won't listen to your explanation

    how long could you endure it, if there is just that every time you see them or talk to them?

    since you give us no details to digest, you'll have to figure it out on your own, watch https://www.youtube.com/c/Autistamatic

    only you can decide if you are or not

  • in reply to I Sperg

    genuinely thank you so much hahah, i’ll be sure to ask them once i get the courage to

  • Could be both. It is in my case.

    The most successful Autists I know, appear to keep the knowledge of their condition to themselves and definitely do not make a big thing out of it.

    For example, those of us qualified pilots who discover they have Autism now need to declare it and in some cases take an extended evaluation before being allowed to continue. Generally in this society you are not considered to "know" unless it has been confirmed by a formal diagnosis. If I were a young person I might be reluctant to rush into receiving a formal diagnosis. If you have nice parents who you get on with, then take their advice.

    A way of broaching the subject might be to say, something along the lines of; " Mum, Dad, you know I can be a bit odd at times?" Then,  "Well, I took a test, and I'd like to talk about it..." 

    Other people will have different ideas about whether you should rush into getting a diagnosis, but I really do think you and your parents ought to take time to think about what is the best way to handle this. IF you have good parents, they will be really helpful with their older perspective.